u/Minute_Winter1028

Dear women,

How do you people deal with the jealousy you feel towards perfect online persona? Recently I saw a girl who has everything in her life. Like she is a doctor in the US, pretty , perfect physique ,rich and supportive parents, handsome partner , dream wedding, fame, etc. Unknowingly I started comparing even though I am also in a comparatively good phase of life. But this girl triggered a lot of insecurities inside me. It’s not like i have ill will towards her. But I felt sad thinking about the privileges I don’t have. How do you people deal with such emotions after seeing such people ?

What do you guys think about motherhood? I’m still thinking about whether to have kids or not. My parents are pressurising me to get pregnant. But I don’t think I am ready yet. My biological clock is ticking. I am not doing it under pressure because I know what a child goes through if their mother is not prepared. Any suggestions to make me feel relieved?

I’m posting this to talk about my in law’s. I don’t discuss this with any other people. This is just to form a clear picture about them.

1. Mom in law talks about giving all her gold to her daughter after her death. But I never mention about taking it or said that its an equal property.

2. They never calls me mole or any other adorable words just my name.

3. Compares me with my neighbours daughter in law after hearing the good things about her through our maid. Even our maid’s opinion is valid about me.

4. She does all the works when she is at her daughte’s place. but expects me to cook for them after coming back from work.

5. Gives backhanded compliments like this dress is good but you didn’t iron it?

6. They didn’t give anything to husband till now( but we are not in a condition to live off that money by god’s grace). But their daughter got all of the pampering. Mom in law is still buying gold for her with the money she got by selling her ancestral property.

7.Once I mention about a bad thing I experienced at a crowd (molestation) she mentioned that ladies from that place is very beautiful. I don’t know what she meant by that. Like only beautiful people gets molested and you are not??!!!

There are many other things which I forgot. But is this normal for you all?