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Hey guys, starting to build my perfume collection, I need some budget friendly perfumes to start with - looking for long lasting, good projection, feminine scents. Budget under 1000.

Last year I went to the gym for weight gain(initially 45kg and 161cm). Was able to go only like 6 months then got a fracture and had to quit. Even with 6 months there was little to no progress. I was gaining some defined muscles but my weight still remained around 46 & 47 kg. A fever would take me back to 45kg.

During gym days I had more food than usual. But in my mind I would gain weight, particularly on my face and hips (but in reality I was getting more lean) and that held me back from eating properly. Was so cautious of what I ate. No sugar, less salt, less oil no junk food.

Back to present, I'm forcing myself to eat more than usual and it's kind of nauseating also suffocating to breathe. Idk maybe it's cause I'm inactive and not spending the energy anywhere. So I'm planning on rejoining the gym tmrw onwards.

If anybody have / has survived any similar eating disorders, i would like to hear some advice.

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I wonder if it's the fear or ignorance that I find women rarely talk about sexuality or anything that has to do with the act. I have never had female friends who were comfortable enough to talk about sexuality. It is surprising how unaware a lot of women are. But ofcourse, there are others who unapologetically embrace their sexuality and dare to open up about their fantasies.

Is there something you wish you knew about this before ?

Hi All

How common is polyamory in Kerala or India in general? I’m someone who’s been thinking about exploring polyamory, so I’m really curious about how it’s viewed here. Are there any communities or safe spaces where people openly talk about it, or is it still very taboo?

For those who are already practicing it, how do you navigate cultural expectations, family pressure, and emotions like jealousy in a society that mostly values monogamy? Any advice for someone planning to get into it would really help.

Edit: This happened in Chennai

Right Labia had been swollen for the past couple of days. Reached a point where I couldn't bear the pain hence decided to see a gynecologist. I have only had the same happen once before, however it never got as big as it had gotten now and shrunk in a few days. Went to the gynac after work, appointment was scheduled at 7:30 PM, had to wait and got in at 8:30. Gynac without any gloves squeezed out the pus which was painful as hell. Became incredibly judgy when I said I was sexually active and very dismissive towards every question posed. Was prescribed antibiotics, the first dose of which was an injection. The nurses used the same needle twice as they couldn't get the drip to flow on the right hand. Scared on the implications of the same. Extremely unhappy with how it turned out. The clinic in itself was vv dirty and what not.

As the title. Has anyone done this and how is it going? How much weight did you lose? And how long are your home workouts and what workouts do you follow?

I'm someone who doesn't like the thought of touching sweaty equipment at the gym and the thought that others have sweated and touched it and it's not clean etc puts me off going to the gym. So I'm trying to sustain with what I have at home.

Especially given the correlation between keeping it all inside and autoimmune diseases.

Hello, Is there any gynaecologists here ?

It’s really frustrating that when i complain to gynaec about my mood changes, change in Physiologie and changes in body , I am blanket told it’s pcos and you can take birth control. If you are a gynaec can ypu do an ama here .

Or suggest what and how we can present this to our gynaec so that we can get proper tests done or taken seriously

more than anything this not knowing why my body changes is frustrating

I just started reading "The Silent Patient" by Alex Michaelids and came across this: "My father’s unpredictable and arbitrary rages made any situation, no matter how benign, into a potential minefield. An innocuous remark or a dissenting voice would trigger his anger and set off a series of explosions from which there was no refuge. The house shook as he shouted."

I relate to this an awful lot. I have a very complicated relationship with my father. He has a drinking problem and whenever he drinks, everything around will turn destructive. And when he is sober, it's quite the opposite- he is loving, kinda calm , approachable (still a patriarchal conservative person, but anyhow manageable). Infact I used to see him sober for over 2 years and everything was good at home. We have dinner together, talk about stuff, his business went okay .it was functioning well. Now he has started drinking again at nights after coming from his shop he owns. I don't really want to be in his vicinity while he is drunk. Anything can make him angry and explode...just like in the book, it could be an 'innocuous remark", a simple gesture, loudness of the voice or even the silence, the phone calls my mom receives from her work, the absence of a tumbler/water in the dining table, sounds of cutlery... anything can make him turn a monster... everything me and my mom do on his presence have to "perfect" "for" him. And it's really scary to be on guard everytime. We have been victims of domestic abuse from him while he was drunk.

Just yesterday, I was chopping vegetables for dish at kitchen . He came home drunk obviously and started giving comments on the vegetables. I said this: "ith njaan cheytholla, pappa poyirik"... that's all I said! The tone wasn't angry, disrespectful, patronizing...it was just neutral. To which he exploded like crazy: "aval enod maari nilk enn parayaanayi...blah blah...".. My mom was there...she also said I didn't say anything for him to act that way. He made a big deal out of it and started saying things like "enik pande ariyaa...ival enne nokkathonnumila..avlk cash ayaa avl enne old age home kond idum"..I was like wtf just happened. Well I couldn't just be mute and I said "arelm nthelm parayumbo ath ngne paranjath aahnen mansilaakanulla vivarm kaaniknm" ...to that he: "aadi njaan vivaradoshi aahn" and went to sleep without eating. Apparently he doesn't talk to me now.

This abnormal behaviour from him is something now I'm habituated to. But that's not the problem. The times will come when he is sober and will be soooo loving and caring. But I'm sooo sorry, I can never buy that again. Even when he is all loving, all I remember is the abuses he made mentally and physically. The above incident is only the least problematic incident that has happened among the many 'I just wanna die/i wish my dad was dead' incidents.

I'm home for vacation and just wanna leave my house asap .

What should I do?

Just got myself a menstrual cup. What are some things you wish you knew before you started using one? Also, how do you sterilse them?

Thanks in advance!

I had posted something about weight loss recently. If anybody wants to join me as an accountability buddy, basically sending progress pictures, meal pictures, keeping each other in track. Im 25, so preferably someone around the same age. Please DM.

Sorry it's a long post.... Idk where else to put this up.

A little background - So I'm 23F and my mom is a single mother. My dad passed away 16yrs back. Amma doesn't work. We manage our income with the help of fixed deposit. I'm right now at home after internship preparing for pg exams.

My mom has three siblings. Two elder sisters and one younger brother. The eldest sister and her brother live together with his wife and children. My ammumma passed away 2 years back. The land that was once ammuma's was divided among the siblings a few years back. My uncle took evryone's land. He paid my mom's other elder sister who is a gem of a person 7 yrs back as she needed money for her daughter's marriage and under that same registration process took my mom's land under his name with the promise that he would pay her in a few years time during my marriage.

My uncle has never been that supportive of us. Even when my dad was sick, he came home once and took Amma's debit card and withdrew money for himself. He asks my mom for financial help, and Amma used to help him when my dad was alive but now after he passed away she hasn't been able to. He once asked her to lend him 1lakh and Amma couldn't cause we ourselves had taken a loan and uncle stopped talking to her and hadn't spoken for many years.

Not only is he like this wrt money, but he keeps screaming at her occasionally. Amma wanted ammumma to stay with us, but she really loved her only "son" and anytime she'd come here would long to go back and be with him. Once Amma went rushing to Kerala when ammumma fell sick and Amma didn't have money to come back home and she never even asked my uncle but he came and screwed her and told that she had to pay for all the hospital expenses and that even if she never has any money left she should walk back to Bangalore where we stay. He screams at her and have told me that I should never end up like my mom, who is a terrible person according to him. But my Amma is a very strong lady and being called my Amma's daughter is a compliment for me.

So here's the thing. My Amma asked for the money for the land cause she's worried about my pg seat. She asked him very nicely but he screamed at her.

My ug graduation happened a few months back and I had told them I'd call my family, but my college said that I could bring only two people extra so I called my 10thgrade tution aunty and one other neighbour uncle who would lend us money anytime we need urgent cash. My mom even called my uncle's wife up and explained the situation. But then my uncle and his wife left our family group, lashed out on me saying that I didn't have the decency to call him and I only care about my work and that I base my relationship with them based on money.

My mom now badly wants the money. My dad's side of the family is really sweet and they helped us financially for my online classes. But we'd appreciate getting the money that's rightfully my Amma's. Is there anything we can do ? My uncle keeps postponing the payment and anytime we'd ask he'd verbally abuse her. So any help would be appreciated.

Hi all, this is my first time on Reddit and my first post here. A friend told me about this sub, and I thought it would be a great place to meet new queer folks, especially during Pride Month.

I would love to connect with people who share similar interests. We can talk about movies, anime, books, or anything we have in common.

I am a 27 year old non binary person looking for genuine connections only. Please no fake profiles or creeps, kindly stay away.

Happy Pride Month 🌈

RANT

Even without the right facilities to look after your kid, society often just drives women into thinking that kids will just grow like that without a parent's presence and that they should work no mattet what happens at home. Is that just my observation and bias?

I have a 1.5+yo and he still doesn't know how to communicate well or say sentences. He just knows words and how to communicate his needs through those words or sounds. Still I thought most working women and their babies go through this phase of adjustment and sacrifices for a better life. My mom was the same, my MIL was the same (though she had in laws to look after my husband and sibling), so I thought I shouldn't feel that this is impossible.

When my kid was 6m, my husband and in laws asked me about work and I said NO I can't think about work rn. After my kid turned 1 year and few months, I thought going to work would be easier than fighting with my kid and not having a structured life at home. I thought getting a job would give him some routine, give me some routine and time to look after myself. Idk I was adamant I wanted a job because somehow my mind had turned me not having a job as being a useless human. Someone without talent or capabilities.

I started job hunting and browsing everything related to jobs. Shortly after, the war started and job market went down, but still I kept applying and searching. Gave some remote job interviews but they needed people to work for pennies. I was depressed because nothing was turning up and it affected my temper with my kid and husband a lot.

Then 3 weeks back I started getting calls, one such call landed me a job. The role was exactly what I was searching for and the work environment was great and promised career growth. I was happy on one side but my kid. I was anxious for him and how he would cope. I kept having doubts whether I should even accept this job. But then I would think this is what I strived for 6months and that everything will work out.

We hired a nanny/maid/househelp. She seemed good and better than others we interviewed. An old sweet lady that's what we thought. We monitored them through a babycam. I used to watch live how they handled my kid and the house. 1 week went by 2 weeks went by. 4 days back my kid's temperament started to change. I thought it might be just him understanding I am leaving him at home, but now hindsight it was because he didn't like this lady and her behaviour towards him.

Long story short, yesterday through the camera we saw many instances where the nanny was shouting at my kid for no reason, pinching him, and then at lunch time pushing him because he stopped at a door for 10secs. The last one was my breaking point. We checked the feed from earlier days and her behavior was not like this. Maybe yesterday her true colors came out.

So today I resigned my job. The company asked me to try to look for another nanny and gave me 3 days leave but I can't leave him with another person. Not until he can vocalize and talk to us about mistreatment.

A job I can get somehow through effort but my kid's health that's not something I can gamble on. To all mothers who doubt themselves like me, let's start learning to love ourselves and know our self-worth. Baaki ellam samayam aavumbo sheri aavum ❤️

Please share your most trusted homemade facemasks, DIY remedies, Skincare/Haircare tips.

I asked her I had a function coming up, and if I should get any facials done..she immediately told me I could try glutathione tablets. Idk with all the skepticism around glutathione in general, this seemed somewhat off to me. Is this normal or am I overthinking it?

Hey girlies...I'm F33 from trivandrum...

Nowadays my motivation is too low to hit the gym so ig I need a gym/workout partner..if any girls are interested please DM...I live around Kowdiar, trivandrum...

Lessgoooo we can help out eachother