u/Prestigious-Humor592

I got a marriage proposal from a guy who has a good job, and his family is well settled. They are looking for someone who is educated and, specifically, an “adakkam othukkam ulla penn.” We are from the same place, but his family currently lives somewhere else. They don’t want a girl from that place because they say, “ivide ulla Penkuttikalonnum sheriyalla”.
I’m an introvert, so people often misunderstand me as being a calm and quiet girl. Would this be considered a red flag?

first watched a reel about his parents' story around a year ago. According to him, his mother was forced into the marriage and was crying while entering the wedding stage. He said that his father proposed to her three times, but she rejected him each time. Eventually, the marriage happened through the influence of her brother.
After the marriage, she found out that her husband was an alcoholic, and she also had to deal with a toxic MIL. I felt really sad for his mother, although I was happy to see that she seems to be doing well now.
What makes me uncomfortable is that he keeps posting the same story repeatedly, often in a humorous way. Every time I see his mother's crying face in those videos, it feels unsettling. Maybe humor is his way of coping with family trauma, and if that's the case, I understand.
However, I feel like the content doesn't really acknowledge how unfair and painful that experience must have been for his mother. Instead, it sometimes feels like a serious situation is being turned into entertainment.
Am I the only one who feels this way?