I’m diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD and when I was originally talking to my therapist, I mentioned my skin licking as kind of an anxiety thing. However, now when I think about it, I realize it’s way more because of the ADHD part of my brain. I always pick for the dopamine and it really really sucks. I have 2 fidget rings I use to try to combat it. What do you do?
I don’t think anything beats Adam Pascal’s version. Just…electrifying.
My best friend is going through a lot. Something with her dad, not gonna get into the specific but it has been really hard on her. She’s also a teacher and it’s FIELD DAY. Suffice it to say, she’s tired and busy.
Lately she has been calling me to vent about stuff unrelated to her dad, about these guys she’s been going out with. I’m here for her, I try to respond and everything but last week I told her one issue that was happening with my boyfriend and I and she did not respond. At all. We were on the phone together. She said “yeah” once and that was it.
I told her about how I was going to have this (not really serious, to be fair) surgery. She barely responded to that and said she was sorry and that she’s been busy and tired. I understand that.
I don’t know maybe it’s something wrong with me (being dead serious, I’m seeking psychiatric help for my mental issues) but I don’t know how to keep being supportive when she has returned NONE of it lately. No I haven’t gone through as much as her lately but the surgery was for a health issue I’ve had my whole life and yet they STILL don’t know what it is, I hate my job, and I have a shit ton of mental health issues I’m trying to fix. I’m having to take 3 different meds now (anxiety, mood swings, depression) She says she cares, she apologizes at the end of the day, but I feel like shit. I know I’m selfish, she’s going through a lot, it’s just hard not to take this so personally. I also feel like shit because I KNOW how self centered I’m feeling.
Admittedly, I think this issue stems from something before this happened that I never addressed with her. A lot of the time, before what happened, she’s just rude on the phone. Half the time I call her she just sounds sick of me. One time, when she spoke that way to me, I actually got mad at her, called her an asshole, and and hung up. She apologized but simultaneously made a million excuses. I feel like any time she apologizes for anything, she makes a million excuses.
I want to be there for her. I do. I’m trying. However, I have other resentment for her because of stuff she’s done in the past that really hasn’t healed yet. Any advice on how to stop being so self centered and/or advice on this whole situation?