u/Mo_Prob70

My husband has a work event he got ticket for and arranged for his dad to watch our kids. He mentioned his dad would watch the kids overnight, sounds great right but we already had a trip to see my family planned and I arranged a for our dogs to be boarded in a place along the way due to limited availability in other nearby places We have to leave early to drive 1.5 hours in order to drop them off in the morning drop off window by 10am.

Now here is the kicker, he just told me today the event is over 2 hours away! If I knew that before, I would have changed the dates for our trip or made other arrangements for our dogs. I am beyond upset.

I feel like he cant plan anything and I have to do it all.

He also expected me to be the DD....and Tuesday is my birthday. This event is the day after. So I am now expected to get my house in order, pack, get our dogs food, etc ready..which will be probably on my birthday, and then drive 2 hours the next day and drive back, pack the car, clean the house and do the other prep..happy fucking birthday to me and there goes our rare date

I am not sure what to call it, but I am talking about SAHMs who left their career and now both kids will be in school. What are you all doing? I always thought I would go back to work ASAP. I was very career focused and hold a Masters degree. Honestly, I never thought I would be a SAHM but we had 2 kids close in age, no family near us and my husband traveled for work. I couldn't manage a baby, toddler, dogs and a career alone.

I am strongly considering taking next year to focus on me, home projects, and maybe subbing ( former teacher). I also need to update my certifications and resume. Being, a teacher, now is hiring season and I just dont feel ready but also, I feel guilty if i dont atleast try to get a job this year.

Such an odd translation.

Being home everyday, cleaning but still the house being messy. Everyone just assuming I will handle it all. I cant mange it anymore. The pool, outside, inside, kids dogs, mental load etc. I was always a successful person so this feeling of failure hits hard.

I dont just need a couple or even 6 hours of a break. I need 24 hours at the minimum to reset myself. I need to be able to just do my household chores and bed rot. Sounds so simple but some how can never seem to happen.

Former teacher, current SAHM for 5 years. I left my teaching job after having my 2nd child in April 2021. My kids were 18 months apart, my husband traveled a TON for work and family was 1000 miles away. It made sense to leave work, though I never thought I wanted to be SAHM. Next school year my youngest will be in Kindergarten and found myself questioning what I want to do. I always said I would go back but now, I am on the fence. I want to enjoy some time at home ALONE. Doing projects, working on me etc but I also feel like going to work would be helpful for my mental health. I need a life outside of my kids and husband. Any other former teachers in the same boat? My dream job would be part time in some supportive educational role.

This gets told to me all the time..you have the time to plan vacation, you have the time to do all household chores, you have the time to book all the appt. You have the time to run all the errands, and now apparently I should also be mowing the yard....I spend probably about 90% of my day taking care of people, pets or things. My time isnt truly mine. Free time is a joke. I get it, this stage can be like this but I am so sick of the assumption that I have so much damn free time and flexibility and therefore I should just do everything for my kids and husband.

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Yes, my kids are out of the toddler stage and dont need constant supervision ( 5 and 6) but they still need me a ton and I am putting out fires all day long. I havent had a true break in so long. My husband will offer to take the kids somewhere so I can clean in peace..so much fun right? Or if I do go do sometimg for myself I still need to do things before or after so I dont get behind. And now he has been telling me, i should teach you how to use zero turn mower? Like WTF! I am far from a lazy person, but I feel so burnout. I can never relax because something needs to be done or someone needs me. And of course if I do something like take the kids to the park on a nice day, i am told how lucky I am. Do you think that my idea of fun?