Is having to use the men’s room -.- why do people pass up 3 urinals to take up the only stall, with the door open AND piss all over the seat and floor. At least in the women’s restroom there are multiple stalls.
Didn’t know what to flair this but needed to rant while doing my business. Thank you for reading.
I like to see what I’m getting usually so I can decide if it lives up to my standards (I’m ok with high quality fakes) but if I could just know it’s real in the box would be great. I figure it’d be easy to copy or peel those stickers but I haven’t seen that posted anywhere as a scam type so I was wondering if it would be an ok (doesn’t need to be fool proof tho) way to rule it out as a fake. Thanks!
Doesn’t matter what I do, I always have a meltdown when I’m supposed to take a shower. The only way I get showered is if I’m having a meltdown that pushes me into it. Like my last shower was because my period leaked and was such a big mess that I was having a meltdown and wanting it off me and was able to get in the shower to do that.
Once I’m in there it’s actually not too bad because I have a shower routine that gets me clean and keeps me from getting too overstimulated. But I only shower every 3-4 weeks and often get sores in skin-on-skin areas.
Today I have to go to my partner’s best friend’s bday party because my partner can’t drive and I’m her only way to get there. I would just drop my partner off but I have canceled on her friend a lot lately including when she euthanized her dog and I feel bad. And it’s been weeks since my last shower so I have to shower but I can’t get myself to do it.
Tried taking an Ativan last night to push through but still had a meltdown over it. Any advice welcome. I have the option of a wet wipe bath that causes a small to medium meltdown but is actually doable, it just doesn’t clean as well. I’ll prob do that unless y’all have something else to suggest? Thank you!
I went to the ER because I was too sick to stand and I was put in a wheelchair and they wheeled me back and wouldn’t let my aide come with me and I kept asking her for her but they kept doing stuff to me and holding me down and I’ve never been treated like this I’m verbal and compliant and they always let me consent but today they didn’t and then they left me in some hallway in the wheelchair and no one came by and I had to pee and my tampon was leaking and I wet myself a little and she says the security was threatening to kick her out cuz she was begging them to let her back and even saying that her insulin was in the bag that she left on the wheelchair but they just did stuff to me anyway and then told me there was nothing wrong with me and sent me away.
We filed a complaint but I am so so poor and I can’t hire a lawyer or anything and I feel so violated and mistreated. And then of course had an epic meltdown when we got home and now my head hurts from hitting it and I’m not any better for having gone to the er or anything at all.
And now I can’t stop crying and idk what to do cuz I have to go take care of my MIL and everyone is upset because they’ve had to take care of her when I’m away and I’m just crying and crying. I wish I had never gone.
My adhd affects me just as severely as my level 2 autism. Both create huge deficits in my life and as y’all are likely able to relate to, people just shame me for things I can’t control.
Twice in the last week (and not before) I forgot the big ball of toilet paper with my tampon in the middle on top of the bathroom trash. I only even set it there cuz I can’t touch the trash lid without immediately washing my hands cuz it’s covered in poop spray PLUS the plunger drips on it. So I have to set the tampon there until I am finished cleaning myself etc.
Every time I tell myself in my head over and over “don’t forget it” on repeat until I’m done in the bathroom and usually that works. But I’m caregiving for my mother in law and have to sleep in the living room with her and I just haven’t been sleeping cuz I’m up with her all night. And that makes my audhd symptoms more severe, PLUS I’m super sick with a cold or flu.
So then my sister in law (we all live together, everyone but me is undiagnosed but certainly at least adhd if not audhd) comes to me as I’m trying to go to bed in the living room and repeatedly tells me not to leave the toilet paper balls on top of the trash and that I’m gross. I told her I’m trying my maximum and if I forget to grab it she can call and I’ll come up immediately or she can knock it on the floor and tell me later and I’ll get it. But she keeps telling me “you have to stop or I’m going to have a meltdown” over and over.
And this feels really wrong. There’s a difference between “this situation makes me feel like I’m going to have a meltdown” and “stop doing that thing or I’m going to have a meltdown”.
Not to mention the last time she had a meltdown she kicked me out of the house and I was homeless for a while then ended up getting severely abused in a last-stop home for queer people.
This feels all the worst cuz she’s literally a therapist and should know better. I feel sick with upset over the whole thing. It’s literally HER mom that I’m caring for.
And then there is the fact that HER adhd is so bad that it has on more than one occasion caused physical injury to her ailing mom. I was so kind and didn’t make a big deal of it and was like hey it happens, it’s hard having adhd.
Not to mention that I have to clean bloody pube prints, pubes and crotch cheese off the toilet after she uses it DAILY.
My partner is having a full trauma response (any conflict in the house was violent as a child with her parents) so I can’t talk to her about it like at all. But I’m really feeling like “don’t do x or I’ll have a meltdown” is weaponized neurodivergence. Am I totally off base for feeling like that?
TLDR; My sister in law said she’d have a meltdown (which have been destructive in the past) if I didn’t change a behavior I can’t help because of my adhd. Is this a threat?