u/MolassesNo3182

I've recently gotten back into a couple types of jfashion and where I used to live there were multiple large meet up groups! Olympia pretty famously has a very large alternative scene (although I don't know if I've seen anyone dress in jfashion) and so I thought I would be able to find something easily but I have had no luck! So, are there any in Olympia or the surrounding area? Any groups or meet-ups or events or anything?

I was looking for some fun kink events near me and stumbled upon Pleasure Bound Studio's website! It seems cool, and I would really like to check it out. This would mean I don't have to go all the way up to Seattle for parties and events which would be great. But I remember hearing a while ago about a kink space in Olympia that was incredibly abusive, allowed known rapists in, did not properly verify people, and just overall was not a safe space. I cannot remember the name of the space that had these allegations and I do not want to go somewhere thats unsafe, especially surrounding consent and kink in general. So, any thoughts on the space? Cool? Uncool? Safe? Unsafe?

I've only ordered 42Lolita a couple times, but every single time their customer service has been so beautiful, so helpful, so great, that I feel the need to loudly proclaim how much I love the company. First time was for my 18th birthday a year and a half ago. I ordered something I didn't realize was a pre-order and saw that it would be arriving close to when I went on my birthday trip to Japan. I was panicking and emailed their staff, asking if there was any way they thought it would get here on time. They said they weren't sure but they would try their best. It arrived a whole three weeks before the MINIMUM amount of time they said it would get here by. They also wished me happy birthday and I got a cute freebie.

A couple weeks ago I ordered a new coord to wear to a school event. It was a pre-order and I did the math and thought it would be fine, but I emailed just to make sure. They told me they did not think it would make it and the earliest it would ship out would be late August but they would do their best. It arrived 45 minutes ago.

Both times the clothing has been incredibly good quality and packaged with care. I love this company, I hope all of their employees have perfect temperature pillows when they sleep, have 7 years of good luck in front of them, win the lottery, make every green light, and more. Bless you 42, bless you

Was scrolling on 42 lolita and saw a dress that I absolutely love from them, but I can't find any reviews on the shop outside of the website and I have not heard of it at all before. I've had some bad experiences with bad quality dresses before and I just want to double check before I make a purchase, especially since it's pretty pricy. If anyone also knows the taobao link to the shop that would be incredibly helpful so it's not so pricy! Thank you!

Hello all! I have been a tea enthusiast for years and am entering my sophomore year as a botany student! I have decided that with my degree I want to go into the tea industry, and have been researching a couple tea science masters programs in China, but I don't know if that's actually necessary. I also really don't know what I'm doing and feel quite lost researching how to enter into the tea industry, especially with a botany degree. How do you get into the tea industry? How much would a tea science degree be helpful? Any tips or tricks for starting out? Thanks!

So I don't remember when I haven't felt this. I just literally cannot feel human interaction. My therapist has said I have extremely low self esteem (true!), but I don't know if thats all of what is happening at this point. I got into a relationship because I thought I felt something, broke things off once I couldn't, but I could not feel any emotional reaction and when she was upset over it I just kept thinking "Why are you upset over me, it's just me, I am not a big deal". I've accidentally hurt other people emotionally because I just cannot mentally fathom that I am important in their life. I feel like a sociopath. I like literally cannot feel other people or like fathom other people in general. I do however, have a fear of like letting people down (especially teachers) but even that I'm becoming more numb to. It's weird. I was also diagnosed with CPTSD at 12 and was originally thought to have DID by my therapists. I've been in therapy on and off for 10 years and consistently for 5. I don't know if this is also just dissociation, or something else. I am also semi-diagnosed with Autism (been to autism specialists who have said I am Autistic, autism specific therapy, etc. but cannot afford to have the official test ran as it starts at $5,000 where I live and am instead officially diagnosed as "Moderate cognitive disability with sensory sensitivity").

I try to talk about this and people brush me off, saying how nice I am and what a good friend I am. I volunteer in pretty much all of my free time because I like helping others and making the world a better place, but I cannot feel others. I don't know if it's just layers of dissociation, a personality disorder, other things, I don't know but it's freaking me out and hurting my friendships.