u/Mom_kasa713

Honestly, more of a funny post. I love when my mom and dad come back home from church and my mom will be talking about this one guy they saw/met at church that they THINK is single. I love how they don't even ask him and they just assume. My mom will just go on and on about how attractive he was and how I should go next time. Typically, if they got his full name, I can just find him on social media and see that he is either partnered up and/or a red flag walking lol. I just remain quiet, like a toddler is talking to me, and respond with "wow" "yeah" "so cool". I think my mom gets annoyed at times because I'm not interested and then sometimes I prove her wrong by showing her his socials. Like yeah this guy who you thought was so cool likes sagging his pants as a fashion statement 💀

Had someone mention in another community that I may be aromantic and I am honestly not sure if I would count as aromantic. For more context, I'm a straight 25F and have only ever been in one relationship (and it was very short). I feel like I like the idea of romance. I will see a random guy and be like "what a beautiful man". But i am always very uncomfortable when "I try to put myself out there" or go on the dating apps. I have stopped doing both of those things because they give me so much anxiety. Also, when I do start talking to men, that's typically when the attraction stops as they typically say or do something that gives me the "ick". I have only had real feelings for someone as an adult once. I never acted on those feelings because I didn't want to ruin the friendship and deep down, knew it wouldn't work out long term. However, I only had those feelings for him after knowing him for 9 months. So idk if anyone else feels the same or if I'm just an odd ball lol

Extra context: 25 and I live with my parents and I've told them that a boundary we need to keep is to not talk about relationships. Typically talking about relationships, when it comes to me, tends to make me uncomfortable. I am, at least, I think I am, happily single, but my parents say otherwise??? Along with my therapist who is a man (I've switched therapists since then). My mom made the comment that if I don't put any effort out there, I'm not going to find anyone. It just hurts when she says these things but I'm so sick and tired of men. I like having my freedom and doing what I want whenever I want. At this point, I don't know if I'm gaslighting myself into thinking I'm happy being single or if others are gaslighting me into thinking I'm actually sad. Idk if this makes any sense. I guess I just want some validation lol 🥲🫠👍🏻