Girlfriend wanted an open relationship before we dated, now we’re back together and she wants one again. I’m conflicted.
My girlfriend and I dated for about four months. We recently broke up over a trust issue, but after talking everything through we decided to get back together and work on rebuilding the relationship. you have a pretty strong connection and both missed each other during this time.
One thing that’s been on my mind is that even before we started dating, she mentioned that she’d be interested in an open relationship,but we both agreed to be in a monogamous relationship, so I didn’t think much of it. after that, there’s been a few points where she mentioned it, but she did say that if I am not comfortable with that, then she won’t bring it up.
Now that we’re back together, she’s brought it up again. This time she said she would be very open to an open relationship and has defended the idea when we’ve talked about it. I don’t want one. I want a monogamous relationship. when I explain why again she said that’s fine.
I’m trying to figure out if this is something people can genuinely work through, or if wanting completely different relationship structures is usually a sign of incompatibility. Has anyone been in a situation where one partner wanted to open the relationship but the other didn’t? How did it turn out?