u/Montyfus

Hi everyone,

I’m 31, and my wife is 33. We’ve been together since 2008 and married since 2018.

We’ve always taken our vacations together, and I’ve genuinely loved that. But this year things are a little different. My wife doesn’t have many vacation days left, and she’s also very attached to our 10-year-old dog. She really doesn’t like being away from him for more than a few days.

Lately, though, I can’t stop thinking about buying a plane ticket, throwing a backpack over my shoulder, and taking a two-week solo trip.

The thing is, we’re very different when it comes to traveling. My wife is happiest at a beach resort with a pool, a nice hotel, and a cocktail. I, on the other hand, want to explore every corner of a country, try the local food, see the culture, and experience as much as possible.

I honestly feel like traveling alone just once would be really good for me—maybe even for both of us.

I like the idea of moving at my own pace, making spontaneous decisions, and not having to compromise on what to do each day. At the same time, I’m worried that my wife might feel hurt or think I don’t want to travel with her anymore, which isn’t true at all. I love traveling with her too—just in a different way.

Is anyone here in a long-term marriage where one or both partners occasionally take solo vacations?

How has it worked out for your relationship? What have been the biggest positives and negatives? Would you recommend it, or do you think it’s something that’s better avoided?

One more thing that makes me hesitate: we don’t have children yet, but we do want them. Our original plan was to start trying for a baby during a vacation by the sea, so part of me also wonders if taking a solo trip first would send the wrong message.

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences, advice, or even a different perspective.

Thanks in advance!

Tl;dr: Wife doesn’t have enough vacation days and is emotionally attached to our dog so I start thinking about having a solo trip on my own.

Když budu počítat první letní brigádu v 15 letech, 2 týdny ve skladu vycashoval jsem asi 4000,- a koupil si za to telefon.

První dospěláckou výplatou jsem si splnil dětský sen, kdy jsem si koupil elektrickou airsoftovou zbraň a šel si poprvé zastřílet s něčím jiným, než s natahovací pistolí a bylo to super. Tu zbraň mám dodnes a prodávat ji z principu asi ani nebudu a to se na ní pěkných pár let práší protože na airsoft už není čas.

Tak se pochlubte.

Ahoj,

Zajímalo by mě jestli je tu někdo, kdo absolvuje nebo absolvoval dovolenou sám se svojí maličkostí?

Jsem 9 let ženatej a ve vztahu s jednou a tou samou ženou už 18 let. Vždy a všude spolu.

Nicméně moje žena tenhle rok docela plýtvala dovolenou takže ji moc dnů už nezbývá + máme doma staršího pejska, na kterého je dost citově vázaná a nechce se odloučit na dlouhou dobu.

Takže mě napadlo, že bych sebral batoh, booknul letenky a na 2 týdny letěl někam do pryč, kde bych byl sám se svojí hlavou, na nikoho vázanej, jel bych si své tempo a dělal bych co uznávám já sám za vhodné.

Pokud tohle někdo pravidelně absolvujete > je s tím Vaše žena v poho? Jste s tím v poho vy a máte pocit, že tenhle restart je pro vás důležitej? Je to vůbec dobrej nápad?

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