u/MooseSoup1

"Scholars will say dancing itself has nothing wrong, and is halal --> therefore going to the club and getting your freak on is halal"

That's basically the line of reasoning many use when promoting pursuing degrees. Actually even worse, because they portray the pursuit of degrees and careers as a noble act.

In reality everyone knows it's practically haram. The free mixing, the fahisha, the riba, prioritization of degrees/career over pursuing family.

Let's be honest, they're not pursuing Islamic knowledge, which is primarily what knowledge in Islam refers to. They're not just trying to be alimas. Even if they are, which do you think Islam says to prioritize: a career or marriage and family?

Because today we're realizing women can't have both. Marriage rates are plummeting, birth rates are falling. In this instance as a woman if you first run to get your degrees, then it's clear which you prioritize.

Again not to mention the riba, which is the case for the majority of students in the west, which is a sin worse than zina, it's literally waging war with Allah.

So for women to opt for this, where the reason is primarily desires, then the sin is much worse. For men, the reason they pursue careers is so they can get married, because the women in our community select for it, and require financial stability. Men don't care about women's financial status.

Go on any of the marriage sites, even the serious ones, and you'll see hoardes of young men looking to marry, whereas barely any young women, mostly women 30+ and divorcees.

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Practically we don't see much difference between Muslim marriages in the west and kuffar relationships. Like let's address the elephant in the room, Muslim husbands aren't given their rights, and imams will not touch that subject.

Practicing Muslim men are fully on board with providing and giving their wife her rights. But you ask "practicing Muslim women" there will be a significant that take issue with being obedient to their husband, they have an issue with Allah saying "ar-rijalu qawwamuna 'ala an-nisa", that men are the caretakers of women.

If brothers get into a marriage, there is no infrastructure to insure their rights, and there is instead a counter infrastructure from kufr courts that work against them. In fact, they have more leverage in a haram relationship because they are free to leave, or take on other women, and anything else is no different than marriage. It's more practical for brothers to pursue a haram relationship.

And let's not get it twisted, Muslim women have also decided for themselves as well, they decided to pursue something that is practically haram, i.e. pursuing degrees and careers, a journey that is filled with degeneracy, major sins, and goes completely contrary to Islamic values.

Practically we don't see much difference between Muslim marriages in the west and kuffar relationships. Like let's address the elephant in the room, Muslim husbands aren't given their rights, and imams will not touch that subject.

Practicing Muslim men are fully on board with providing and giving their wife her rights. But you ask "practicing Muslim women" there will be a significant that take issue with being obedient to their husband, they have an issue with Allah saying "ar-rijalu qawwamuna 'ala an-nisa", that men are the caretakers of women.

If brothers get into a marriage, there is no infrastructure to insure their rights, and there is instead a counter infrastructure from kufr courts that work against them. In fact, they have more leverage in a haram relationship because they are free to leave, or take on other women, and anything else is no different than marriage. It's more practical for brothers to pursue a haram relationship.

And let's not get it twisted, Muslim women have also decided for themselves as well, they decided to pursue something that is practically haram, i.e. pursuing degrees and careers, a journey that is filled with degeneracy, major sins, and goes completely contrary to Islamic values.