u/MortgageInevitable83

I 29f am the first mom of my group of friends and I feel like I’ve become an alien. individually everyone is super sweet and supportive and a few of them have talked about TTC in the next year or so maybe things will be different when they start having kids. They still include me in things and they’ve all been great honestly it’s nothing they’ve done but I feel like I’m watching them all from the opposite side of a window it’s not like theres anything I would ask them to do differently but it feels like I’ve aged 10 years in the 6 months since my son was born. has anyone else felt this way?

My Mom was not a good mother to me(29f) and she is still not a good mother to my 16yo sister. She is a really pathetic figure she still lives at home with my grandmother she doesn’t have friends or much of a life outside of her retail job. she was extremely neglectful and verbally cruel to me growing up however i never really considered cutting her out of my life until now it never really seemed like she was playing with a full deck and I didn’t see her enough that it felt dramatic to draw such a harsh line and also because I would like to maintain a relationship with my younger sister But by no means have we ever been close That being said said my mom is absolutely enthralled with my 5 month old old son she has been visiting every week and she’s pretty handy so she’s honestly been a pretty big help around the house however she does get a bit weird about the baby in a possessive way nothing extreme but she won’t hand him back to me or will get offended if she asks to do something like push the stroller and I say no. My sister told me she caught my mom trying to set up a Trump account for my son and was dodgey when my sister asked her if my husband and I knew what she was doing not only did we not know she’s never mentioned it to me or asked me if we set one up already or anything. I confronted her about it very gently and explained that setting up accounts for my son is my husband and my job not something for her to worry about she didn’t argue much with me about it but I got the sense she didn’t get that she’s crossing boundaries and the whole thing just isn’t sitting well with me. she is by far my sons most involved grandparent and I don’t want to rob him of that but I’m uncomfortable with how comfortable she is feeling