u/Mother_Trucker97

Hi everyone! My boyfriend wanted me to share my story here since it's apparently somewhat rare to break an arm while skating? I'm not sure, he's been at it for a while, and I tried it with him for the first time in 20 years this weekend! Let's just say I'm a little bottom heavy and have no balance WITHOHT skates on... long story short, fell backwards, my legs somehow flew out and up from under me, and all my weight went through my outstretched arm 🥲 needless to say, our second roller skating date also turned into our first hospital date! I'm definitely not discouraged and was still having a blast despite falling at least 6 times per session. I hurt myself our first time out, twisted my knee and ankle and had to pause for a bit to let the swelling subside. And the next time we went out I broke my arm RIGHT when I felt like I was finally starting to get a feel for things! Ah well, skating twice has led me to become more and more interested, and this long weekend together of skating so fiercely helped me snag a wonderful boyfriend! Not going to complain about any of it 😇 give me 12 weeks and I'll be back at it! This time with ALL the protection! Excited to be part of this fun group and track my progress once I can get back at it. Lesson learned: DON'T try to catch myself like that ever again

Edit: I heard my boyfriend wrong and hand/wrist/elbow injuries are NOT uncommon. I have a terrible memory 😅

So I'm a 29F, and I became single last August after a long serious relationship. Around then is when I started this new job and started finding myself and exploring dating again. One of my coworkers is this gorgeous woman in her 50s, she's married and isn't staunchly childfree herself but she doesn't have kids and we always talk about our lives. She says she lives vicariously through me and is always excited to hear the latest on my love life and finding myself and she gives wonderful advice and is so caring. I always tell her I want to be her when I grow up; gorgeous, wonderful marraige, financially stable, loves her job, fulfilled life outside of work. She's just so wonderful and supportive, I always look forward to when we get to work together. I've recently been seeing someone I actually met on the Cf4Cf page here on reddit and she's so excited for me.

Then the other day, I learned more about my newest coworker. Of course I asked the "are you married/have kids" as people do, and her response had me so excited and heard. Before I told her anything about myself, she answers the question with "no, I'm not married, too many men out here aren't worth disrupting my life, and I'm childfree so it's hard to find anyone I'm actually interested in". When I tell you my jaw dropped! I was like omg yes, finally, a childfree person in real life I can talk to! Her and I proceeded to talk about why we're childfree, how shit dating has been, how wonderful are lives are without partners but also what we're looking for in a partner if we do find one. We talked about how barbaric the healthcare system is in terms of birth control and sterilization options and the inequality within regarding men VS women's care. Long story short, it was so wonderful to talk to someone who was speaking the words I always have in my head that I never share out loud because no one else I know feels this way. We got so close, we clocked out and just kept talking for over an hour. Not to mention, she's successful, beautiful, kind, and has all her shit together. I just found it comforting, if a little sad, that myself and these 2 coworkers who don't have kids chat about how we're thriving and loving life, but our other coworkers with kids, despite being very kind and wonderful women, don't seem to share the same zest for life we have. It's wonderful to have people to talk to in person about the things I read about on this sub, up until them I hadn't had anyone who I could connect to!

Also, side note, I saw a comment/post thing about "what's the most attractive thing a cf man can do". My thoughts: get a vasectomy. I'm already fixed anyways, thank you Bisalp of 2022! But, it's so hot to know when a guy takes this decision into his own hands and isn't afraid to go under the knife for the life he wants. Taking the pressure off women they may date for birth control is so wonderful!

So I was recently using dating apps, like Hinge and Facebook and things. Not Tinder, not into hookups. Anyways, on my profile I always click the "doesn't have kids" and "doesn't want kids" options. Firstly, men really don't take the time to look at more than 1 picture on my profile because a bunch of guys who sent me likes all have "wants kids" on their profile or "already has kids". Also funny how if I talk to them and I say oh I really like fishing they're like "oh wow never would've guessed that's so cool". Yet like the third picture on my profile is me fishing 😂

The biggest thing is, they'll really say anything to get you to go out with them. I have doesn't want kids in my profiles but apparently no one sees it. So I'll start talking to someone and within the first few messages I say something like "okay let's get deep, what do you want your future to look like/what are your plans? Marraige and kids?" Because someone I actually want to date would say "oh actually no I don't want kids" but most of them assume marraige and kids is what I want based on how I phrase the question, so all of them say "oh for sure definitely wanna get married and have kids that's why I'm here". So then I hit them with the "oh I see, that's lovely for you, so sorry this won't work out as I don't want to have kids and might not want marraige either". And they switch up SO fast. "Well I mean I'd want marraige and kids if that's what my partner wanted but actually I don't think I want kids" and I'm like well, you just said you did so? And then sometimes I really wanna see how far they'll go so then when they agree with me and say "oh yeah I actually don't want kids ever" I say "oh I meant I don't want kids NOW, I definitely want them in the future" and then they hit me with the "oh yeah thats what I meant too". And I'm like bro. How many times are you gonna change your mind 😅🥲

What irks me the most is "I'm fine with whatever, I'll let my partner decide". As soon as I hear someone basically saying "I have no opinion and I'll let my partner make those important life decisions" I want to vomit. Like what! How can you not make your own decisions that affect every aspect if your life?! It's so wild. Dating is so stupid sometimes

Luckily I recently found someone on the cf4cf page and I've never felt more secure in this regard! We really need somewhere online more CF people can get together. We definitely need it!