If you're worried that you're stupid you're not
INFPs can suffer from worrying that they are incompetent or that they're objectively worthless. The reality is that you're just not.
In reality, Fi users, your goal isn't to show the world you're competent it's to show the world that competence starts from within.
Fi intelligence isn't cerebral. It's embodied. I takes a certain courage to be willing to embody the wisdom of the world because knowledge hurts. Truth hurts. No one with a bright light is spared from that truth.
People might attack you, talk shit about you, talk behind your back, argue with you excessively or make you feel stupid but the reality is that it's all proof that youre the medicine.
Does this mean the things they do to you are right? No.
Does this mean you deserve what happened to you? No.
Do you deserve better? Absolutely.
All it really means is that the world is still broken. People are still broken on the inside. It's not you, it's them.
I realized this when reflecting on why INFPs may get attached to logic. My own desires to be logical. Here's the thing. I'm a strong enough soul to make it happen. I became exactly that. I became logical and intelligent through my own will at the cost of much of my sympathy and sensitivity at times. I feel as though I have forsaken my own gifts.
Will I ever stop fighting to reclaim myself and what's rightfully mine? To find the courage to reject the image I created for myself? Absolutely not. I will not give up.
In the meantime what I want for you, is not to forsake your own gifts. The value of Fi which is embodiment, it's to avoid making the same mistakes I have. To know that I know that you aren't worthless, stupid or whatever.
You might be clumsy, you might fail or make mistakes or look stupid in an argument because you're not willing to hurt them or because you're hurt. You might look like an asshole at times and question if you could have done better.
The reality isn't that you never need to learn. It's that you can't afford to forget who you are. Even if it means looking stupid, looking like a beginner, looking like a fool, a dumbass if you will.
Not to hold resentment towards those who hurt you. But to feel pain instead of feeling like they need to pay. They might never learn their lesson.
The world needs you to remind people how to move through the truth in their bodies and hearts.
Anyways, this was on my mind and I felt like I needed to get it out.
I hope you enjoyed. Thanks for reading and take care.