Therapy Culture Drama
Note to mods: this may be therapy reform. It is mainly therapy culture drama. So I’m saying therapy critical
I’m single, female and 47. I have been through a lot with therapy but this is another story. My therapy bio: mom wanted me in therapy in high school for not getting asked out, mom wanted me on Prozac because my brother was on drugs, went to therapy after an abusive boyfriend and learned boundaries, friends didn’t like boundaries so it caused havoc, marriage therapists said things like: you will never get pregnant with that kind of attitude, you have to allow your husband to tell his mom every thing, your pcos is public but his flaccidity is private, therapist gave legal advice unsolicited, last therapist wanted me to vacation with my mom who enabled by brother
Enough with my drama on to therapy culture drama
I was involved in a Facebook dating group where we analyzed men’s profiles. A anonymous woman made a post that saying see a therapist is cruel. She got a bunch of backlash. People said it was helpful. It was kind to say see a therapist
I said if someone is sad because they lost their dog or their job. Is that really a good response? Like my neighbors whose house burned down. I gave them clothes, food and dog toys as they rebuild. Would it be helpful to say as they leave….oh by the way see a therapist. That response got hate. I was being LOL emoji’ed. My notifications were filling up fast with them. I was told I wanted people to not seek help
I then said 2 years post divorce i was doing the work. I was literally doing anything that damned therapist said. I went to meetups. I took classes. I met people but I didn’t make any long term friends. I spent the holidays alone. And I went along with this story and said I mentioned that to someone. I didn’t have anyone to spend the holidays with. The persons response…see a therapist. Well I was going through therapy at that time
I was told “in the kindest” way possible that no one wants to be around me and I did to do the work to get people to like. More or less…but it was asinine
I blasted the group that this isn’t the result of people who have been through therapy. It’s parroting. I left the group. Drama done? No
They stalked and mocked my personal Facebook page.
Too bad I cannot share the screenshots.
Anyway, the values of empathy and curiosity seem to be missing in the therapy culture
I want to reform this some how. But that’s another saying