u/Mountainpirategirl

I’d like to start by saying I adore my future MIL and would love to freely hug her all day long. However, she wears the most potent fragrance oil and even when she doesn’t wear it she smells like it for days. When she stays at our house it takes a week or more to get the smell out (we’ve started putting sacks of charcoal under the guest bed before she comes and it has helped). When she hugs us we smell like it for hours and sometimes even after a change of clothes.
I don’t wanna smell like my man’s mother on our wedding day and night. Imagine closing your eyes and smelling your mother as you go to kiss your bride.
Main issue is I’m a huge hugger. A run hug lift is my go to when seeing people I love, though I doubt I’ll pick anyone up in my gown it’d be very obvious if I were avoiding hugging someone.
My fiancé suggested we buy her a nice dress and gift it to her so the oil isn’t on her clothes (totally down for) however we both know that won’t solve the issue and are hoping it’ll prevent more transfer.
Any recommendations would be appreciated!

His parents hate that I don’t have a job. I love and respect my man enough to know his family is a high priority in his life and just blocking them or ignoring them would break his heart. Honestly it hurts him alot when his family is rude to me and tries to stand up for me but they don’t care. Since day 1 we both knew we wanted to work towards keeping me home full time (lots of reasons, medical issues being top). I’ve always been very independent and seemingly confident so when I stopped working everyone was really shocked. My mom got over it quickly when she noticed I lit up and all my personality came back out in full force; I talk to people now, I’m not in daily pain, I don’t need 90% of my meds anymore, and I genuinely feel like I can breath. His parents on the other hand have stayed mad (it’s been 8 months) and don’t hesitate to make jabs at me not working or being a mooch. They don’t know our finances and considering we pay most of their bills they have no business commenting on it, but they do. My brother in law says they’re protecting their baby and upset he doesn’t spend more time with them. He spends more time with them now (thanks to me mind you) than he ever did since he moved out. I keep going between heartbroken that two people I considered second parents are now upset at me and angry that they won’t listen or see all the good that’s coming out of this for their son. I refuse to use money as leverage and we immediately shut down conversations about it because they will say we think we’re better than them (they work 2 days a month at a cigar lounge) We are so happy with our life and so heartbroken they refuse to see it.
So if you’re in a similar situation how to you not let it get to you? Just ignoring it has not helped it just makes me sad.

My sister is a busy corporate girly with a loving sweet mildly unreliable husband. We were not on good terms for the first two and she had lots and lots of support. This go around she has little to no support aside from me and our mom who would only be able to be there two days. It’s already a tough pregnancy and she’s gonna be in bed for at least a week afterwards. I am not a baby person (severe ptsd not a choice) and will be leaving that up to hubby and mama. Mainly I will do my best to keep everyone on track, fed, and clean with my focus on my sister’s health (I’m tired of everyone putting her last). However I have no clue what that looks like. She has no free time to get ready for baby outside of the basic baby equipment gathering and hubby is busy with the other two high needs kids.
I really would love to know what does that look from my position? How can I give the most support without trying to control anything or neglecting the emotional sides of everything? Should I meal prep or just ingredient prep? Do I keep the house hospital level clean while trying to keep her from doing work in bed? I’m a very plan and prep then let things fall into place person, however I’m well aware there is little chance things will go as planned with a newborn in the picture.

I get chin and lip hair fast. The boxed wax strips work well but my skin hates them plus I feel it’s really wasteful. When looking for the melting waxes there were a few different kinds of wax and I have no clue which ones would be best for my face. The honey or beeswax is out as I unfortunately am allergic.
Thank you!!

As the title says I’ve been working on treating my plantar warts for YEARS. It started as one I ignored for most a year because honestly I thought it would just go away, it didn’t. Got the freeze spray stuff ran the full 12 weeks with it, no change (cool no growth but not shrinking). I then tried the gel for 18 weeks, again no change. Scheduled with a local dermatologist and the pain wasn’t bad so I got put at the end of the waitlist, 4 months later I go in and they we like oh that’s not bad we’ll clear the hard top and then treat it with some goo that burned like hell. It was sore for a week, red, but looked way flatter. A month later go for the follow up and it’s the exact same, I didn’t have enough money for the meds they wanted me on and said it was too small to freeze without hurting the surrounding skin so I should wait it out and keep it clean. Two months later it’s much bigger, rougher, and hurts so I tried duct tape and the gel again. Over the next 12 weeks it got much worse and had like a group of four totally the size of a nickle. I gave up at this point and was like screw it I’ll save to just have it all cut out. The past year I’ve done next to nothing with it aside from doing at home tea tree pedicures cuz I missed pedicures but I’m not gonna have someone else touch my foot with a wart.
TELL ME WHY ITS GONE???? Idk when it happened or how but my foot is completely wart free, smooth as a baby’s booty. Like was it just luck or did the cheap tea tree oil and salt soak do it? Because I spent $3 on this crap at the dollar store and it smells like the Lacroix of oils so I’m like there’s no way.

Venting because house buying is a mess anyway but now I’m getting priced out of trailer parks, or should I say “manufactured neighborhoods”, as the HOA fees in most are three times what the mortgage is. None of them have pools, community centers, street lighting, sidewalks, communal mailboxes, and more than half don’t even have gravel or paved roads. It’s already nuts they’re selling a 1992 single wide with half the roof missing for $100k on less than 1/4acre but then to have a $1000 a month HOA fees for “community maintenance”???? It’s a dirt road with a sign up front and ten single wides or trailers falling into the clay soil. One of them had a really nice sign that advertised “newly painted community entrance” with the first house behind it literally collapsed in still from Helene. Not that a grand is ever worth it but come on, it’s a trailer park not a luxury neighborhood. Does the fee come with built in security for when Debra’s meth lab blows up next door?
Also I’m not talking about the lot lease, that’s a separate charge. My friend said they’re trying to keep them vacant so they’ll be allowed to tear them all down and sell the land but idk if that’s gonna happen. People just seem to buy them with twelve other people. Idk thanks for letting me rant because what the hell.

Yes yes data center bad, be nicer if they didn’t ruin water and land. I ask out of curiosity and desire to learn not to justify building more. A good ole porch chat on a hot Sunday evening.
Ethics of the data centers aside could data centers be used to process water for human consumption or use? I’m not sure how they use the water aside from going through tubes to cool them but if it has to be clean to be used and gets really hot would that sterilize the water? Could the water get hot enough to be used for steam powering stuff? Would rain collection from their roofs be a reasonable way to cool them or would that do more harm? Would it be possible for them to create their own circuit at some point (ex, collect water, clean water, cool stuff, steam water, make power, repeat)?

Do y’all track your fitness in your bullet journal? I have a pretty barebones one that I forget about. Not even sure how I want it formatted, I don’t track water but I want to track workouts, steps, weight. I’d rather monthly spreads but workouts probably need to be weekly unless it’s gonna be tiny.

How often do you clean your brushes, sponges, and reusable makeup remover pads? How do you make sure they all dry without getting musty or moldy? Do you have a routine or schedule?

I seem to wait until everything looks unrecognizable to clean and that’s not cool. My skin deserves better.

Also do y’all have favorite reusable makeup removing wipes or pads? I need more than three little rounds.

Thank you 💛

I’m a firm believer in minding my own business. Especially in apartments because everyone is just trying to live their lives and just because I don’t like it doesn’t mean it’s bad. However I’ve lived here almost two years and it’s gotten so bad being here I can’t do nothing. I also don’t want to start shit and make living here worse in other ways.

Layout: townhouses, with small front yards not separated with a sidewalk a ft from the doors and windows, small backyards separated on the sides by tall 6ft long fences with a sidewalk at the end of the fences then a cliff and stairs to the tiny back parking lot. I am between two townhouses.

Early issues: (like all within the first 3months) the neighbors on one side get drunk 24/7/365 scream yell cry and argue every night, they stand outside my front window and try to comment on what they hear me listening to or talking about, one of them listens through the walls and makes weird comments about our sex life (we are super self conscious and know nobody can hear us… since then we literally do it standing in silence), they come and sit on my chairs in my backyard even though everyone has them, the other side neighbors talk loud as hell on their phones outside all afternoon and some mornings, always try to have conversations with us when we are outside, ask for food when we grill.

New issues: both sides have been feeding stray cats, they pee all over the front sidewalk and my SO has to go through the back now because it makes his eyes burn, they leave the food outside and the ants are going crazy over them, the cats have started eating my herbs, one of them keeps leaving wet food cans outside and they smell, the cans also get dragged around and the lawn care people run over them and they fling into things, one of them has been giving the kids from the end unit (the adults in that unit avoid the neighbors harder than I do) toys and chalk which gets left in the lot or on the stairs, the kids won’t pick up because their pare told then to stop bringing junk home and the neighbors say it’s not their issue.

Advice needed: what do I do? I understand I live in an undesirable location and have to put up with stuff others may not but I can’t just avoid stuff anymore. My dead dad’s truck is getting dented, I can’t go outside without being harassed or vomiting from the stink, I’ve lived in silence and fear in my own home for almost two years, I’m so tired, I can’t move, I also can’t handle them being actively mad at me.