I wanted to share this because I spent roughly 4–5 hours a day for almost two years practicing the Sedona Method. I’ve experienced a number of positive changes during that time, although I honestly can't say how much of it was because of the method and how much was simply because I left a toxic job and spent two years away from that environment.

But recently I realized something that completely changed the way I understand releasing.

I wasn't actually feeling my emotions. I was repressing them.

And I think this is particularly important for anyone who has a lot of trauma or is disconnected/dissociated from their feelings.

For a long time, I couldn't really feel much emotionally. I was very disconnected from what I would call the “feeling self.” But because I wanted the Sedona Method to work so badly, I would sometimes create an emotion in my imagination and then try to release it.

And when I did feel something genuine, I would often immediately apply the three questions instead of giving myself enough time to actually experience what was there.

Looking back, I think I was doing something like this:

>“Here is an emotion. I am observing it from a distance. Now let me ask the questions so that it will go away.”

I thought this was releasing. And boy, was i wrong.

Over time, my social anxiety became extremely severe. I could experience sharp pain in my chest simply because someone looked at me. That's when I started questioning what I was actually doing and realized how much I had been disconnected from my own emotional experience.

One thing that especially bothers me in retrospect is Hale's statement in the course:

>“It's okay if you don't feel anything shifting, just keep going, you can't get this wrong.”

I personally found this extremely misleading.

I think you actually can get it wrong.

At least, I did.

Maybe the statement is useful for someone who is already properly feeling their emotions, but for someone who is dissociated and isn't actually feeling the emotion, blindly continuing with the technique can potentially reinforce the very disconnection they're trying to resolve.

So what am I doing now? Am i still using the Sedona Method?

Yes and no.

Yes, because I still believe there is something very valuable about allowing and releasing emotions.

No, because I don't use the three questions anymore.

Instead, I simply sit with whatever I'm actually feeling.

And this is where I discovered something that I wish someone had explained to me years ago:

Actually feeling an emotion is very different from observing an emotion.

I didn't understand this until I watched some of Joe Hudson's coaching videos. Watching someone genuinely experience an emotion suddenly made something click for me. It resonated so deeply that I ended up crying — really crying — for the first time in what felt like decades.

I realized that what I had previously called “feeling an emotion” wasn't really feeling it.

When I actually feel an emotion, there is no psychological distance from it.

It's much more like being the emotion.

For me, it often manifests physically as a tremendous amount of heat coming into the chest. Mostly there are tears and sometimes even a kind of pain.

And after the emotion has been fully experienced, there is often an incredible sense of clarity and lightness. “Pure” is the closest word I can find for it.

So if you're reading this and you're someone who is very disconnected from your emotions, I would suggest first learning what genuine emotional experiencing actually looks and feels like.

For me, watching other people genuinely experience emotions helped enormously. Joe Hudson's coaching videos were particularly useful for this.

Then try noticing the difference between:

“I am observing fear in my body and trying to make it disappear.”

and

“I am completely inside this fear. I am allowing myself to actually experience it.”

The second one is radically different.

There is no need to imagine a door, imagine energy leaving, or force anything to happen.

There isn't even much room for asking questions.

You simply go into the experience itself.

Become intimate with it.

Let yourself fully experience what is already there.

And, for me, something surprising happens: the emotion releases by itself.

Sometimes it happens incredibly quickly.

Another thing I discovered is that emotions themselves can actually be quite beautiful — even emotions like fear.

When I was observing fear from a distance and resisting it, fear felt horrible.

When I actually allowed myself to be with the fear completely, it became a surprisingly rich and even enjoyable experience.

I'm not saying that this is the only correct way to practice the Sedona Method, and I'm certainly not claiming that my interpretation is universally applicable.

I'm sharing this because I spent thousands of hours practicing, and I wish someone had told me earlier that there is a huge difference between:

observing an emotion → trying to release it

and

actually feeling the emotion → allowing it to complete itself.

If you're doing hours of releasing every day but becoming increasingly disconnected from your emotions, I would seriously question whether you're actually feeling what you're trying to release.

Maybe the problem isn't that you aren't releasing enough.

Maybe you aren't feeling enough.

P.S.

I also think the examples in the 1992 course gave me the wrong idea of what “feeling an emotion” actually looks like.

This is something I only noticed in hindsight.

When I watch the people demonstrating releasing in the 1992 Sedona Method course now, I don't see what I would consider genuine emotional experiencing. To me, it often looks more like they are observing the emotion from a distance, wanting it to go away, and sometimes even holding back their physical expression.

I don't mean this as a criticism of the people in the course. I'm talking about how I interpreted what I was seeing and how that interpretation affected my own practice.

I had unconsciously learned that “feeling an emotion” meant sitting still, observing something in the body, and trying to let it go.

But I now think genuine emotional experiencing can look completely different.

Compare that with watching people in Joe Hudson's coaching videos. What struck me was how little they seemed to be trying to do anything with the emotion. They become vulnerable. Their faces change. They cry, shake, express themselves, and sometimes their whole body responds to what they're experiencing.

There seems to be a quality of not holding themselves back.

Obviously, strong outward expression isn't proof by itself that someone is genuinely feeling an emotion. People can act, perform, or exaggerate too. But in my experience, when someone is genuinely allowing an emotion to be experienced, strong spontaneous expression — especially in the face — can be a very useful indication that something real is being felt rather than merely observed intellectually.

That was a huge realization for me.

Here's one of my favourite ways of explaining letting go. And it covers something that tripped me up in the past. I turned letting go into an activity to make things go away. I notice sometimes when people facilitate me, it seems they expect the feeling to go away when they ask me "Could you let it go.". But for me, letting go has nothing to do with making things go away.

Letting Go Without Pushing Away:
In the Sedona Method, we often ask a simple but powerful question:
"Could you let it go?"
At first glance, it seems direct, and it is. But there’s a subtle depth to it that’s often missed. Sometimes, when we hear this question, the mind translates it into something more like:
“Get rid of this now.”
And when that happens, the feeling doesn’t actually get released it gets repressed.

Letting go, in its truest sense, isn’t about forcing something out of our experience. It’s more like a soft unclenching. Imagine holding a pen in your hand. You’re gripping it tightly. Letting go doesn’t mean throwing the pen across the room. It simply means relaxing your hand. Now the pen rests gently on your palm free to stay, free to roll around, and also free to fall away when it's ready. You’re not controlling it anymore. You’re just not holding on.

That’s the spirit of “letting go” in the Sedona Method. When we ask, “Could I let this go?”, we’re not demanding the feeling to disappear. We’re inviting ourselves to open the hand. To stop gripping. To allow whatever is present: sadness, fear, anger, or even joy, to be exactly as it is, without interference. Sometimes the feeling lingers. That’s okay. What matters is that we’re no longer tightening around it. And in that soft openness, something often shifts. Not because we made it shift, but because we stopped trying to control it.

If the question “Could I let this go?” ever feels like pressure, try this first:
“Could I welcome this feeling?”
“Could I allow it to be here, just for now?”
Even, “Could I welcome my resistance to it?”

From that place of gentle allowing, letting go becomes less like a task and more like a natural exhale.

So next time you feel something stir inside, try opening the hand. Let the feeling rest freely, without force. It stays if it wants. It lets go when it’s ready. Either way, you’re free.

Lester Levenson’s original Step 1 in the Six Steps to Freedom is generally stated as: "You must want freedom more than you want approval, control, and security."

After exploring mindfulness, non-dual pointers, and Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, I realized that "freedom" can sometimes feel like a distant, abstract goal. To make it more immediate, I rephrased the first step:

"Could you want to be here now more than you want control, approval, or security?"

Here is why this alternate interpretation is practically effective:

• It shifts the focus from a future state to an immediate action. You can choose to be "here now" in this exact second, whereas the ego often frames "freedom" as something to achieve later.
• The underlying wants are time-bound. The desire for control, approval, and security inherently relies on a past or a future. Eckhart Tolle points out that the ego requires psychological time to survive.
• Presence is the mechanism of release. If you fully consent to being here now, you automatically drop the resistance that fuels the need to manipulate an outcome (control), seek external validation (approval), or guarantee survival (security).

Combining the mechanics of the Sedona Method with pure present-moment awareness simplifies the letting-go process.

Has anyone else experimented with combining Levenson’s teachings with non-dual or present-moment pointers? I'd be interested to hear if this framing helps anyone else drop those underlying wants.

I’ve been working on releasing negative emotions for over two years to get rid of suffering. I have bounced back and forth between the Sedona Method, Larry Crane’s Release Technique, and Dr. Hawkins' Letting Go.

Hawkins' method is the only one that gives me consistent results. As a highly analytical person, the Sedona Method questions just get me stuck in my intellect trying to figure things out. However, I keep getting lured back to the other methods because of their massive promises.

I am starting to think the non-Hawkins methods are nonsense, and I have a few blunt questions for people who have navigated this:

1. Is Lester Levenson’s "freedom in 3 months" claim BS? Lester claimed that if we exclusively focus on releasing the three core wants (approval, control, security), we can go completely free in three months. I have spent hours upon hours doing this and just get stuck. Is there any actual truth to this timeline, or is it heavily exaggerated?
2. Is Larry Crane’s "Butt System" a complete lie? Larry explicitly taught that you can literally sit on your butt all day, release on your wants, and have everything in the world effortlessly manifest for you. I’ve done the releasing with absolutely zero real-world results. Is this just manifestation marketing garbage?
3. Should I let go of the "greed" for quick freedom? I realize that my desire to use Lester's method of releasing wants is driven by greed—the ego's desire for a massive shortcut to clear limitations faster.
4. Is Hawkins the only realistic approach? Dr. Hawkins doesn't promise manifestation tricks or 90-day timelines. He focuses entirely on the slower, grounded process of surrendering negative feelings one by one as they arise.

Should I just accept that the fast-track promises of the Sedona Method and Release Technique are BS, drop the greed of going free quickly, and commit 100% to Dr. Hawkins’ process?

Has anyone here gone through this exact realization and successfully abandoned the other methods? I just want the truth.

Every time I sit down to release, I find myself overwhelmed by the sheer number of tools available. The frustrating part is that none of them works consistently. One tool might deliver an amazing breakthrough in the morning, yet the very same technique can leave me completely stuck just a few hours later.

Lester Levenson famously advised keeping it simple. Ironically, in my experience, nothing feels quite as complex as the Sedona Method today. There are literally dozens—if not hundreds—of ways to approach a single problem, which often leads to decision fatigue. To illustrate my confusion, here is a snapshot of the options I’m juggling:

Methods from Hale Dwoskin:

1. Decide to drop it (e.g., dropping the pen).
2. Welcoming (open-arms gesture, settling with yourself).
3. Zoom into the feeling (noticing the space between atoms).
4. Notice both polarities at once (like/dislike).
5. Triple welcoming (noticing the feeling, any resistance to it, and the sense of "I").
6. Various questioning techniques from the Sedona Method book.

Methods from Larry Crane:

1. Open a door in your feeling center and let the energy pass through.
2. Let go of disapproving of yourself and give yourself approval.
3. Say "Yes" to the feeling instead of saying "No."
4. Tell the ego, "I am bigger than you. I don't need you anymore."
5. Recognize that all feelings want to leave; ask them and give them permission to go.
6. Let go of wanting to figure things out.

Other complementary modalities:

1. EFT tapping.
2. The Work (Byron Katie).
3. Ho'oponopono.
4. Breathing techniques.

Given this abundance, my core question is this: How can I simplify the process of choosing the right tool for the right problem? Is there a framework, a rule of thumb, or a specific criterion that can help me decide which method to apply in different life situations? 

Here is a comprehensive, structured summary designed for quick revision of all the core concepts, techniques, and philosophies.

1. The Foundation: What is Releasing?

Instead of suppressing, expressing, or escaping our emotions, releasing is the process of simply allowing an emotion to come up and letting it pass through.

• The Physical Mechanism: Disengage your head (which only analyzes and spins) and focus on your feeling center (your stomach or chest). Picture a magical tube opening up and allowing the unwanted energy to safely pass through and leave your body.
• The Three Questions: To actively release a feeling in the present moment, ask yourself: 1) Could I welcome this feeling? 2) Could I let it go? 3) Would I let it go? When?.
• Feelings are just programs: Emotions are not facts, and they are not you. They are simply passing phenomena that you can choose to drop.

2. The Roots of Suffering: Wants and Emotions

All human suffering and limitation stems from a hierarchy of emotions and deeply ingrained subconscious "wants."

• Wanting = Lacking: The very sensation of "wanting" something actually instructs your subconscious mind that you lack it, thereby pushing it away.
• The Four Basic Wants: Every negative feeling can be traced down to one of four core desires: Wanting Approval/Love, Wanting Control, Wanting Security/Survival, and Wanting Separation/Oneness. Letting go of the underlying want eliminates thousands of associated thoughts at once.
• The AGFLAP-CAP Scale: Emotions sit on a scale of energy. At the bottom (heavy, constricting) are Apathy, Grief, Fear, Lust, Anger, and Pride (AGFLAP). As you release these, you naturally rise into higher, action-oriented, and freeing states: Courageousness, Acceptance, and Peace (CAP).

3. The Six Steps to Freedom

Both Crane and Dwoskin highlight Lester Levenson’s "Six Steps" as the ultimate roadmap to mastering this process:

1. Want freedom/imperturbability more than you want approval, control, or security.
2. Decide that you can release and be free.
3. See that all your feelings culminate in the basic wants, and let go of the wants.
4. Make releasing constant.
5. If you are stuck, let go of wanting to control the stuckness.
6. Notice that each time you release, you are lighter and happier; continue to release to become continually happier.

4. Deep-Clearing Techniques

To dig out hidden, subconscious blocks, the books provide specific drilling techniques:

• Attachments and Aversions (Likes & Dislikes): We stay stuck because we blindly cling to things we like and push away things we dislike. To clear an issue, make a list of the advantages (what you like) and disadvantages (what you dislike) of the situation. Trace each one back to wanting approval, control, or security, and release it. Go back and forth until you feel completely neutral.
• "Squeezing the Lemon": To find hidden resistance, imagine the absolute worst-case scenario (e.g., "Imagine never, ever having money again"). This forces the hidden clutching/fear in your stomach to the surface so you can effectively release it.
• Letting go of "Figuring it Out": Trying to intellectualize a problem stops you from solving it. Wanting to figure it out instructs your mind not to give you the answer. Let go of wanting the answer, and the answer will effortlessly appear.

5. Specialized Applications

• The Cleanup Procedure (For Relationships): Used to clear conflicts with difficult people. Visualize the person and ask: Did they try to control/disapprove/threaten me? Did I try to control/disapprove/threaten them? Release the corresponding wants, and finally, decide to grant them the right to be exactly as they are.
• Setting and Attaining Goals: Never phrase a goal in the future tense or use the word "want" or negative words like "not". Phrase it in the present as, "I allow myself to [insert goal] with ease.". Write the goal down, notice whatever negative feelings arise, trace them to a core want, and release them until you feel only Courageousness, Acceptance, or Peace about the goal.
• Healing the Body: The body obeys the mind; illness is often a manifestation of suppressed negative emotions and unconscious beliefs. To heal, stop giving your disease a "label" (which is a mental program) and instead just welcome and release the physical sensations.
• Dissolving Resistance: Resistance is the feeling of swimming upstream. When you feel yourself procrastinating or avoiding something, ask: "Could I let go of resisting doing this?" followed by "Could I let go of resisting NOT doing this?".

6. Advanced Perspectives

• The "I" Diagram & Aspects of Mind: You are not your mind. The mind consists of the "I" sense (ego), the Discriminator (lens), and Programs (recordings). The real you is the unlimited blank canvas behind all of this. Releasing acts as an eraser to wipe away the programs, revealing the infinite potential underneath.
• There Are No Problems in the Present: Problems only exist in memory. When you feel stuck, ask: "Could I allow myself to remember how I used to believe I had this problem?" By pushing the problem into the past, you free yourself to drop it in the present.
• Holistic Releasing: Since our world is built on opposites (happy/sad, success/failure), you can collapse an issue entirely by welcoming both sides of a polarity. E.g., "Could I allow myself to resist this? Could I allow myself to accept this?" Going back and forth neutralizes the duality into empty space.
• The 5th Way: A direct inquiry into the illusion of the ego. Ask yourself: "In this moment, if I do not go into memory, can I actually find this 'me'?" When the mind fails to find a central "me," it stops, leaving you resting in pure Beingness and Presence.

I want to share a realization that just helped me break through a frustrating plateau while releasing.

Recently, I was trying to release a tight knot in my stomach. I knew the underlying feeling was fear, but it simply wouldn’t dissolve. No matter which Sedona Method process I applied, or how many times I ran through the questions, the knot stayed completely stuck.

Then I remembered a statement from A Course in Miracles: "I am never upset for the reason I think."

The realization was immediate. I was so fixated on releasing the knot (the fear) that I was completely blind to the actual feeling dominating my awareness in that exact moment: my frustration that the knot wasn't leaving.

I wasn't actually upset by the fear right then; I was upset by my inability to release it. In Sedona Method terms, I was totally caught up in wanting to change it—pure resistance.

As soon as I shifted my focus away from the knot in my stomach and simply allowed the frustration of being stuck to be there, there was an immediate release. The resistance dropped, and I felt good again.

If you ever find yourself hammering away at a feeling and getting nowhere, pause and check if you are actually just frustrated with the feeling itself. Drop the original issue for a second and release the frustration of being stuck. You might not be stuck for the reason you think.

We've all been there. You sit down, identify a want—approval, control, or security—and mentally affirm, "I let it go." You repeat it a few times. But deep down, nothing really shifts. The charge remains.

Why? Because the mental concept of the want is just a label. A thought. And thoughts, by themselves, have no mass, no energy, no charge. You can run the Sedona questions on the idea of a want all day long, but if the body is still holding tension, nothing actually releases.

Here's what I realized: The want isn't the feeling. The feeling is the LACK behind the want.

The thought "I want approval" is the mind's story. But underneath that story—actually living in your body—is a very specific physical sensation. That hollow, empty, or aching contraction in your chest, solar plexus, or throat. That emptiness is the lack. That is the actual energy that needs to move.

The fix

Don't release the concept of the want. Release the physical sensation of lacking.

Ask yourself: "If I didn't have this want right now, what would I feel in my body?" The answer is usually a hollow, empty, or aching sensation in your solar plexus or heart. Feel that emptiness. Allow that physical sensation to expand and dissolve. That is how you release a want.

How to apply the Sedona questions to this directly

1. When you notice a want arising, ignore the words. Drop your attention straight into your body.
2. Ask: "If I didn't have this want right now, what would I feel in my body?" Be still and wait. Don't think—just sense. Usually, it shows up as a hollow pit, an empty pull, or a subtle ache in your center.
3. Now, apply the questions to that physical sensation:
   • "Could I let this feeling of lack go?" (Not the thought—the actual hollow feeling.)
   • "Would I let it go?"
   • "When?"
4. Don't answer with your mind. Let your body answer. You're not looking for a verbal "yes"—you're looking for a physical shift. A softening. A widening. A sigh. A gentle dissolution of that hollow contraction.
5. If it doesn't go immediately, ask: "Could I allow this feeling of emptiness to just be here?" Welcome it fully. Sometimes welcoming it is what allows it to release faster than trying to push it away.

When you release that underlying feeling of lack, the mental want has nothing left to hold onto. It collapses automatically—without you having to fight it, argue with it, or even run questions on the thought itself. You've gone straight to the root.

This small shift in attention—from mind to body, from concept to sensation—is what made the three wants actually releasable for me. You're not forcing anything. You're just using the Sedona questions exactly as intended: on the energy that's present, not the story about it. Give it a try. The difference is subtle at first, but it cuts much deeper.

1. Want your goal more than you want approval, control, security, separation and oneness.
2. Decide that you can let go.
3. Allow yourself to perceive the now feeling as one of the core wants. Just by perceiving it, it releases on its own.
4. Get into the habit of releasing in daily life.
5. If you're stuck, let go of wanting to control the stuckness. Getting stuck doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. It's just your mind's way to keep you suffering. Another tip is to give yourself permission to hold on.
6. Each time you do this process, you'll feel lighter, freer and more effective. This reinforces the first step.

The Prickly Toy Analogy

Imagine you are handed a heavy, prickly toy. By itself, the toy is just a neutral object, but you are tightly squeezing it, which hurts your hand.

• The Toy (The Trigger): The specific situation you are reacting to (e.g., a friend leaves your text on "read"). Life constantly hands you prickly toys, but they only hurt based on how hard you squeeze them.
• The Pain (The Emotion): The negative feeling (anxiety, anger, sadness) caused by the squeeze.
• Suppression: Shoving the prickly toy in your pocket. You try to ignore it, but it still pokes you every time you move.
• Allowing (Stopping Resistance): Bringing the toy out of your pocket, opening your hand, and just looking at it. You feel its prickliness without fighting it, judging it, or trying to push it away.
• The "Want" (The Squeeze): The hidden reason why you choose to keep squeezing the toy instead of dropping it.

Even though it hurts, your brain tricked you into thinking you must hold it. The Sedona Method identifies three core reasons (wants) you ever squeeze the toy:

1. Wanting Control: "I have to make this toy do what I say!"
2. Wanting Approval: "If I hold this, people will think I'm good!"
3. Wanting Security: "If I drop this, something bad will happen!"

The 6 Steps to Releasing the Grip

To stop the pain, Lester Levenson (creator of the method) outlined six steps to train your brain to let go.

Step 1: Want freedom more than the toy. You must genuinely want to be free of the pain more than you want to be "right," get sympathy, or stay mad at the situation.

Step 2: Decide that you can drop it. Remind yourself that holding on is a subconscious choice. You are fully capable of opening your hand and letting it go.

Step 3: See the "Want" and ask the questions. When you feel pain, stop resisting it (Allowing). Ask yourself: "Why am I squeezing this? Is it for Control, Approval, or Security?" Once you spot the hidden want, ask yourself three simple questions to open your hand:

• Could I let go of wanting [control/approval/security]? (Yes or No. You are just checking if it is physically possible to drop it).
• Would I let go of wanting this? (Am I willing to drop it?)
• When? (Now).

Step 4: Make dropping toys a constant habit. Don't just do this for massive life crises. Make it a habit to drop the tiny prickly toys life hands you all day long (annoying traffic, a rude comment, a minor mistake).

Step 5: If you get stuck, let go of wanting to control being stuck. Sometimes your hand cramps and you can't drop the toy. Don't fight the cramp. Simply ask: "Could I let go of wanting to change the fact that I feel stuck right now?" Stop resisting the stuckness, and the grip will often release on its own.

Step 6: Notice how much lighter you feel. Every single time you let go of a want, you drop a heavy weight. The more you practice opening your hand, the lighter, happier, and more unbothered you become permanently.

Just wanted to drop a quick realization I had that has completely shifted how I practice releasing, and I think it might help anyone who feels like they are hitting a wall.

​Often, the reason we struggle to release is because we are actively suppressing the emotion. We push it down, and the subconscious mind plays the classic trick of: "I'll deal with this later."

​Because of this, when we ask the traditional question, "Could you let it go?", the mind can easily interpret "go" as "make it disappear," "banish it," or "push it away." This creates massive resistance and accidentally triggers more suppression.

​Lately, I’ve been changing the words slightly:

​Could you let it out?

​Would you let it out?

​When?

​Why this works (and the Feng connection):

​Switching "go" to "out" completely removes the pressure to make the emotion vanish. You aren't forcing the feeling to leave; you're just stopping the act of holding it inside. It transforms the process from an intellectual battle into a purely physical, open-ended release valve.

​This beautifully ties into the insights shared by Wind (Feng) in his deep-dives on Lester's work. Feng points out a massive distinction that people miss: Acceptance is just tolerating a feeling (which keeps you identified with it), but true release is allowing the energy to exit.

​Letting go starts with expression—not ego-driven emotional venting, but letting the energy move outward from your awareness instead of trapping it inside.

​When you ask "Could you let it out?", you are directly addressing the suppression. You give the energy permission to rise up, express its presence, and exit. Once it's allowed out, it naturally dissolves on its own.

1. As soon as you awaken in the morning, become aware of what you are feeling, trace the feeling down to the underlying want, and release.
2. Preview the day, and release. Have the Six Steps in front of you.
3. In addition to releasing on the go, set aside time for short releasing breaks during the day.
4. If you begin to get stirred up or stressed, notice this, and release.
5. Have some goals you're releasing on daily. Do attachments and aversions exercises on things and situations in your life.
6. Review the day and release. Have the Six Steps in front of you. Release on:
   1. Circumstances/events/situations
   2. People
   3. Resistance to circumstances/events/situations
   4. When was wanting control stirred up? Wanting approval? Wanting Security?
7. Determine where you could have been more aware today, and where you need to be more aware tomorrow, in order to keep your releasing going even more consistently.
8. Be aware of when you are resisting, and release the feeling of resistance.
9. Review the Six Steps daily. Determine where you were off, and what you need to do to get back on the track.
10. If you have trouble releasing, see where in the Six Steps you are off. Remember — there are NO EXCEPTIONS!

Disclaimer:
This is a personal interpretation of the method and might differ from other interpretations available online.

What is letting go?
Letting go is like looking away.
Example: There is an artistic bottle on my desk. I am just constantly looking at it because it's interesting to look at. A friend enters my room and says "Enough admiring dude, could you just let it go?" And you let the bottle be there and take your attention to something else.

How is this letting go beneficial to us?
When you apply this letting go phenomena to your emotions and wants, you experience a deep sense of peace, something that you have been looking for in the external world but never found it there. If you keep doing it, you will realize that it's not just an experience of peace but you are and always have been that peace.

How to let go?

1. Identify who you are, in this moment? Eg: Right now, I am someone who is frustrated by the work load of my office.
2. Shift your entire focus from the story (work load of office) to the feeling (frustration)
3. Remind yourself that it's just a feeling you are experiencing, separate from you. Eg: Few hours ago I was the same me, but that frustration feeling wasn't there.
4. Could you let it go? (Are you capable of letting it go?)
5. Would you let it go if you could? (Do you like that feeling or would you rather let it go?)
6. When would you let it go if you would?

Don't rush to answer, let it come from a place of knowing. Also remember both yes and no are acceptable answers. Just make sure it's a firm yes or firm no. If your answer is "maybe" or "in between", then you are in apathy. Just move up to courageousness and say out loud YES or NO. After answering each question, your job is done. You are not responsible for releasing.

Common trap:
Don't pick up the emotion or want that is already separate from you. Pick up only that feeling which you consider yourself to be as.
Eg: You are with a friend and he said something that made you angry. But you don't want to be angry because it might ruin your friendship. So you try to release the anger, but that's a trap. Here, you are not someone who is angry, you are actually someone who wants to save his friendship or control that anger. So here, the correct thing to release is "wanting to save that friendship" or "wanting to control the anger" and not the anger.

Tips for releasing wants:

1. Wants are easier to release and more efficient as compared to emotions.
2. Identify which of the 3 core wants it is by going deeper. Don't just guess.
3. Wants are subtler than thoughts and emotions. They are like the finest form of a thought, very vague.
4. Don't use the questions when releasing wants. Just become aware of the want and look at it for 1-2 seconds (keep your mind still and focus). It'll release on it's own.
5. If it doesn't releases, you have a deeper want. So look for that.

What is stuckness?
It's the stuck feeling you get when you're wanting to release and it's not happening.

Why do we get stuck?
When you have released enough to know that it works and has the ability to make you happy, you start wanting to release more than you want imperturbablity. You start looking at releasing like a drug that can make you blissful. But because Want = Lack, the more you want to release the harder it gets.

How to get unstuck?
Let go of wanting to release. But if you are releasing for a long time, you know that there is nothing better than it. You lack the motivation to let go of the "wanting to release".

Where can i get the motivation to let go of the "wanting to release"?
You must want imperturbability more than you want anything else. Don't confuse wanting imperturbability with wanting to release. It will become clear when you ask yourself this question:

1. Imagine never ever being able to release again, you'll be stuck for the rest of your life, but you'll be blissfully happy. What do you choose? Ready to barter your releasing for happiness?

Important pointer:
The one that's wanting to release and become free, can never release or get free. Because that character is not you. You are already free. Suffering is the result of believing that you are the character. The character along with the world comes and goes within you.

Additional tip:
Let the body be your anchor. Don't let your mind distract you with thoughts (fake feelings) to release on, instead of the acutally feeling in the body.

Methods given by Hale:

1. Decide to drop it (dropping the pen)
2. Welcoming (open arms gesture, settling with yourself)
3. Zoom into the feeling (notice space between atoms)
4. Notice both polarities at once (like-dislike)
5. Triple welcoming (notice the feeling, any resistance to it, and the sense of "I")

Methods given by Larry:

1. Open up a door in your feeling centre and let the energy pass through
2. Let go of dissaproving of yourself and give yourself approval
3. Say "Yes" to the feeling instead of saying "No"
4. Tell the ego "I am bigger than you. I don't need you anymore"
5. All feelings wants to leave. Ask it, and give it permission to leave
6. Let go of wanting to figure things out

Others methods that can lead to a release:

1. EFT tapping
2. The work (Byron Katie)
3. Ho'oponopono
4. 478 breathing

Very helpful tip when stuck:
Get in touch with your thoughts and stay in touch. What ever goes through your mind, negative, positive, nuetral, just experience it. Don't try to change or release it. Just stay in touch with your thoughts. Do it the whole time, all day. If you are doing something, don't plan or think how to do it. If you are in this state of mind everything will turn out to be the way you wanted it to be. - A commentator on Sedona method fb group