u/Murky-Map3659

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My 27NB (non-binary) birthday is in two days. I already have PTSD, severe anxiety, and fall into a depression around my birthday. As a child, I often remember fights happening almost every holidays between me and/or family members, and it was a very lonely time for me. I also rarely leave the house because I am working on getting through agoraphobia.

This morning, I woke up having a PTSD-related nightmare. Then when my mom called me, she started screaming at me about a piece of furniture I still have at her house (which we had agreed we'd focus on AFTER my birthday).

On my actual birthday, my mom is picking me up to take me to visit my grandma. My grandma isn't doing well, and with my anxiety issues, I am not able to go see her on my own. I am feeling anxious about the car ride due to the agoraphobia, but also feeling trapped with my mother.

This year I am hoping things will be different, as I set up a small party with friends for next Sunday. I am anxious because not all of my friends know each other, and I don't know if it will end up being awkward somehow.

Overall, I feel my depression making me want to just sleep until after my birthday. I barely want to talk, I don't want to be overthinking.

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I am 27NB (AFAB) and pansexual. My boyfriend is cis 36M, and he's pretty sure he's straight. We have been together almost 2 years, but have known each other for over 10 years.

I am more stereotypically masculine than I am feminine, that goes with how I speak, how I act, how I dress, etc. When people new meet me, if they ask how my being non-binary affects things, I say "just treat me like one of the guys". The best way I have found to express it is that most of the time, being stereotypically feminine makes me feel like I am wearing a mask or a costume to be something I'm not - just like how I try to hide traits or my autism or severe anxiety disorder when I go out.

For the last few days I was able to tell that something was bothering him. Finally, last night he told me that he's still 100% attracted to me and loves me, he's just wondering if he's still straight because of my being non-binary. He isn't questioning the relationship or us as a couple at all, just questioning what this means for his sexuality.

I responded by telling him as long as he still feels attracted to me and wanting to be with me that his sexuality doesn't need to be questioned. Sexuality isn't just straight or gay, and there are MANY things he could be - but it isn't important to define himself as long as he is comfortable with himself. Is there anything else I should say, or did I say the wrong thing? Or did I say everything right? No matter how he identifies his sexuality, I would still love and accept him, which I also said to him.