u/Muslimahadvice

This weekend I took one of my medications and ended up vomiting nonstop. It started around 6 a.m. on Sunday, and I threw up 9 times throughout the day. Eventually there wasn’t even any food left in my stomach, but I kept throwing up what I assume was stomach acid.

Since then, I haven’t been able to keep much down. I tried eating a small container of applesauce and threw that up too. I’ve also struggled to keep water down. Yesterday I threw up once more in the morning, and I’ve lost about 6 pounds in one day, which I’m assuming is mostly from dehydration.

At what point do you go to the ER for IV fluids? Has anyone been in a similar situation? Did they just give you fluids and anti-nausea medications because I have plenty here and even after Zofran I threw up on sunday, or did they do additional testing?

I’m mostly wondering if not being able to keep food or water down for this long is enough of a reason to go in.

Maybe this is just a personal preference, but I don’t think you have to be good friends with your neighbors. I’m perfectly happy with waving, saying hi, maybe having a short conversation if we see each other outside. I just don’t feel like it needs to be deeper than that.

My MIL is the opposite. She talks about our neighbors all the time, especially the neighbor’s daughter (“Cam”). I’m going to be honest, I don’t really care. They seem nice enough, but I have no interest in becoming friends just because we live next door.

For example, last week my husband and I were watching TV on our new couch around 9 or 10 p.m. It wasn’t blasting or anything, but my MIL came downstairs and asked if we could turn it down because she was upstairs. Fair enough. But then she added that Cam is “probably sleeping too.” And she’s never complained about ever being loud anyways, and the door was shut. I was just thinking… okay? I don’t really see why that’s my concern. Meanwhile, Cam is outside in our backyard area with her dog sometimes being loud, and I don’t complain.

The neighbors recently went out of state, and my MIL kept talking about how nice they were because they said we could park in their driveway while they were gone. Yesterday at dinner she said, “Cam is down for badminton.” A couple weeks ago my MIL bought badminton rackets because she thought my husband and I could play outside sometimes and she could join too, which I didn’t mind. But then she started inviting the neighbors, and now she’s encouraging me to be friends with Cam.

The thing is… I don’t want to. My husband doesn’t either. When we lived in our apartment, we’d chat with neighbors in passing, “Hi, how are you?” and that was enough. I don’t know if Cam and I would even click as friends, and I hate feeling like I have to fake a friendship just because someone lives next door.

Am I the odd one here? Is it normal to just want to keep neighbors as friendly acquaintances instead of actual friends?

My husband and I moved in with my mother in law because we were having financial problems. My MIL is nice, but there have been times where she has said things that just were not it. I’m honestly so drained that even explaining all of those situations feels exhausting.

Today during dinner she was talking about how we need to save money and stop spending. The thing is, we do not spend. Other than gas, bills, and paying off debt, there is really nothing extra being bought. She makes it seem like my husband is constantly buying things for me and loosely spending money, when he does not have that luxury at all. His paycheck goes toward car payments and paying off our credit cards, which are closed and not even being used anymore.

She wants him to pay her $500 a month, which is fine, but at the same time she keeps talking about how we need to save more. I do not understand how we are supposed to save much when we have car payments, debt payments, and then another $500 payment every month. There is not much left after all of that, in fact nothing.

Then she brought up how I should pick up more shifts if I really want to help my husband. I work PRN for a reason. I am currently in undergrad, graduating this fall, and plan on applying to PA school next cycle. I am taking summer classes right now, my current class ends in two weeks, and then another starts next month. I have not had a break from school. When I was working more while being a full time student, I was completely burned out and it negatively affected my schooling. I make $15.45 an hour and I already feel like I am doing the best I can right now, even if my paycheck is $200 I use that money for us like we need gas or need something. I also drop off this girl I know to her job, so I get up 5:15a and take her to to workplace, and it’s 10 bucks just for that ride, I still haven’t gotten paid for any of that yet but I thought I was trying..

Another thing that really upset me was when she brought up our marriage and said that when my husband married me, he should have stayed living with her and that we never should have gone on our honeymoon because it was a waste of money. We got married two years ago. Hearing that honestly hurt.

I just feel absolutely beat down. I already feel guilty enough being in this situation. I don’t want to upset her because we are living in her home and I appreciate that she is helping us, but it feels like she continues to say things that upset me. I feel useless sometimes. I keep thinking that if I was already a PA and working, maybe things would not be like this.

I don’t even know what I’m looking for. Maybe advice from people who have had to live with family while trying to get back on their feet. How do you deal with feeling judged while also being grateful for the help?

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