u/MysteryMeat45

I was having a conversation with a friend, telling them about a person I know who is medically diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, and while describing his antics said to the other person, "And you called me a narcissist". The person I was talking to interrupted and said "No I dont think youre a narcissist, do you think i am?"

Here's where things explode. There are some things I know enrage this person, like saying anythjng anout women, or anything about racism, and I do try to avoid that. So I said "Id rather dodge an argument, moving along", trying to get back to the antics I was telling them about.

I was then accused of calling the person a narcissist. They told me that I asked them if they thought I was a narcissist, insisted I labeled them, profanity, hangup. Person has gone to our friend group with this explanation.

Personally I feel like my words were twisted.

I explained that my words were being twisted. Then I was accused of trying to warp reality. This became a 3 day argument, them calling me each morning to insist I called them a narcissist. Each time I tried to clarify things, I was accused of having an outburst, and " spinning things around", that what I did was abusive. Im still puzzled by it.

I personally dont feel like I asked them anything, and I dont feel like I called them anything at all. Why? Because I didnt ask any questions or throw any label at all.

Further, in between calling to push the argument, this person calls to tell me what a wonderful friend I am and how much they appreciate the friendship. Its a 180° flip flop and im starting to think life would be better without this friend.

Was i wrong? Person tells me I should have answered "no", and that theres no other answer. This person also historically cant accept "no" for an answer and often decides what other people think and feel, regardless what other people say. The word twisting thing always seem to be geared toward making things an attack against them, its really weird to observe.