u/Mythohlogy

I've been wondering about this lately and I think I might be on the spectrum.

I'm in my mid 20s and have always noticed a similar pattern in my relationships. I don't have sexual feelings until I share a close emotional bond with someone.

Casual relationships and one night stands make me feel incredibly uncomfortable (No judgement to those who have it but it's a No for me from Day One).

I don't know if this is relevant, but growing up, I would devour books that would follow the _Soulmate_ (Werewolves, for example) or _Just one person for the rest of my life_ trope. I thought it was just a preference of genre until I read the other ones too. And if they had multiple love interests, I would simply lose interest.

Recently, my boyfriend and I were going through a rough patch for few weeks (mostly situational issues not individual ones), but the moment he expressed that he was feeling a bit distant, my attraction towards him started plummeting as I felt my emotional safety was threatened and that affected my sexual attraction and lovey dovey feelings towards him.

We recently worked it out and I feel those warm feelings resurfacing again, gradually.

I don't know anyone within my social circle who identifies as a demisexual to confirm this, so I ask you all..

Am I demisexual?

Hi ladies, I come from a conservative family where getting married by 27-28 and having kids by 30 is something that has been indirectly implied all my life.

I don't blame them because that's what they have been conditioned to believe in too.

I'm currently with someone who doesn't want kids (on the fence about it, leaning towards this from a "financial freedom" aspect). I like kids, I'm good with kids, but I don't exactly see myself raising them all too well (probably need years of therapy before I can take care of a little human). Even if I am aware of this, I oppose the idea of not having kids with so much vigour that it surprises me too.

Lately, from being someone who absolutely wanted kids to sitting on the fence about this decision, I feel conflicted. Almost guilty about not considering not going down the conventional path (I am 25).

Sorry if this post is a mess but I just wanted to know if any of you felt like this before you chose this lifestyle or how do you view it in general? And any retirement plans or experiences that you would like to share with a sister who is beginning to consider it?