u/Naive_Comment_9315

Its a fact we all can agree to this our batchmates , seniors , professors mostly are just trying to pull you down make you weak and i think it makes them happy to see someone cry or be miserable.

Its toxic for everyone and its a real big deal if you come out alive of that hell hole and still have the confidence and zeal to continue in the same field. I have been verbally beaten down by professors to the point that i have cried at my room whole day . Male professors and seniors eying you like an object just made for them to lust upon .

Its even worse for people belonging to non binary and gay community people .
There was a classmate of mine who was quite open about his sexuality and also used to cross dress he was on dating apps too and the people in my batch made fake ids and staked him and matched with him talked to him and asked them to meet them and harassed him made fun of him laughed at him . They were very normal to him at face but i have heard what they say behind his back . When i tried to shut them down once they said you are like him too then . I was like fine bro i am more than okay being him who is courageous enough to own his truth rather than being a homophobic asshole .
No one literally no one sat with him during lectures cause girls and boys used to sit in different sections of the room he used to sit alone on a long af bench .
They were sooo scared that he might do something to then its so funny cause none of them were even remotely attractive. It used to make me feel really angry but sad for him .

After college i saw his story and i got to know he is doing through transition surgery and i was so happy cause i used to support him he was never rude to anyone .
He once wore a cute badge on his bad with pride flag and i complimented him he got soo happy .
I feel people need to accept people as they are and respect them . It’s high time cause when are we going to shut all these religious , caste and gender biases people have in their brain we need to get rid of them and make sure we don’t pass it down to our next generations .
Also i do not know what pronouns he goes by rn so i used he/him right now .

I have been aware of my sexuality since i was in 2 nd year i had a crush on my very close senior to the extent that i was low key jealous of her boyfriend cause she is just ethereal okay .
And there were signs before that too but i never knew that what i feel can be defined by words . I was like really confused cause i never have had a woman as my partner but that doesn’t make me not like girls .

So whatever i had told all this to my then boyfriend who is now my ex cause he was a shitbag .
I told him and he thought i would be okay to like check put girls with him it was my fault too cause i never stopped him as i was confused and immature too .
He used to give me subtle hints to go talk to girls who were hot and like ask them out make friends with them .
And one day in an argument he was like whats the use if you being bisexual if we can’t have a threesome . I was gagged i mean the audacity to use my sexuality for your pleasure is just soo disgusting. He was like genuinely pissed at me for not allowing that to happen .
The thing with me is i like monogamy and i can only have true feelings for one person at a time and i hate the idea of sharing my partner with anyone .

This is going to be a long post so bear with me please . When i am writing this post i feel the trauma again of going through that phase , and i feel that i have been such a strong woman to stand up against this disgusting man .

He was our ENT professor and he had a bad reputation since like day one when we were about to enter our third year seniors used to warn us about him that do not go in his chamber alone ever . I always used to wonder why did no one report about this ever .
In third year this person failed me in puc and when i asked him for the answer sheet he refused to show it to me , even held my hand and pulled me towards him and mind you i was not alone in there , there were one or two pgs and a senior professor. I let it go that time cause i was already failed i didn’t want him to have grudge against me . I wasn’t able to write my UC paper that year was the worst year for me cause i failef in almost all subjects my mental health was so bad .
When i was writing my puc paper again he came to me and kept asking me to drink chai i refused thrice then he kept the chai cup in front of me and told me to drink it i said sir i have to write my paper he still was like “no chai piyo paper toh hota rahega “ . I was so done with him so i drank chai and wrote the paper simultaneously. Then he came to my seat asking if i want to ask some question i said no he came again then i did ask him one question he laughed at me saying “yeh bhi nahi ata “ and put his hand on my back and rubbed it , when i tell you chills ran down my spine cause i was in shock , i still ignored cause i had to pass in that exam anyhow . I did pass finally and i was done with that asshole i thought .
Then came internship and i was dreading when my ENT rotation started . Surprisingly it was going smoothly but he did keep asking me to come sit near him and used to ask me weird questions and indirectly did ask me out in front of everyone and it got sidelined cause everyone laughed including PGs .
Everyone knew about his reputation and what all he has done he used to close the door when taking viva of girls and idk what all he used to do cause if he can do all this in front of 10 people idk what he is capable of doing when alone .
He used to embarrass me a lot like kept asking me to eat a kachori when i refused like 5-6 times everyone used to be like why is he acting like that with you and i had no answer to it he was just creepy and annoying.
Then it was the second last day of my posting in his department and we were all standing there to get our daily sign outs from him and thats when he came in the corridor and tried to pull my hand and thank god i put my hand behind my back and jumped backwards cause he looked really angry and then he still came and put his hand on my shoulder and talked to me .
Everyone saw that and every girl there was terrified and they saw how scared i was . I cried a lot and called my brother first then he got really furious called my father and then he came to meet me and we went to lodge a complaint against him to the dean .

The thing escalated a bit i was told to not come out of my room till this thing cools down cause apparently he has some contacts that could have harmed me .
I didn’t go out of my room for like 7 days it was the worst time of my whole mbbs journey. We even did escalate the complaint to women cell in the police station .

What the department did later was way worse they harassed my co interns and refused to sign their attendance sheets and made them sit for hours and not let then work either . Told them that i was a liar and i should take my complaint back cause apparently the professor is a very “reputed doctor “ .
The college women cell committee called me and my co interns all 11 of them i loved the unity cause even boys they took my stand and backed me up but they were interrogated in a harsh way one friend of mine started crying and told them her own story of how that very professor harassed her too .

They called me asked me weird questions and tried to put it all on me then in the end nothing happened they took no action against him .
Even the PGs did not take my stand they were threatening other co pgs and saying praising that very professor .

I was called to the police station too but i didn’t want to file an FIR cause it would just cause me more trouble and other departments would turn against me because of this too cause for them its their colleagues against an intern who is of no value . We told the police officer to bring him in and make him understand that this is not right so that he never does such thing to any other girl ever .
Later on he did give me full attendance and apologised to my father said gave a very stupid reply that “she is like my daughter why would i do that “. My father thrashed him not literally but yeah he was shit scared that time .
Also the irony he has a daughter himself and he sends her to learn karate for self defence 🤣.

So however this incident was very traumatic it did make me into a stronger woman because i did what many other girls were scared of doing i stood up for them and for probably prevented someone else to go through the same trauma due to that as*hole . I made sure his reputation is tampered somehow . Although i wasn’t able to do much cause the college never took any action . I just feel such professors should be beaten up by students itself cause the administration is for shits .