u/NapolisGentleman

Hi everyone,

I’m an classy and decent older gentleman who really enjoys doling out impact play and discipline. It has been a little while since I’ve had the chance to meet someone who shares this specific fantasy or enjoys submitting to this type of play.

For me, the real thrill is simply about helping a woman who loves submission, or someone who has been curious about what it feels like. I am not looking for a traditional relationship. In fact, I actually prefer it if a partner is already in a committed relationship. That way, there are no expectations for a deeper romantic connection or intercourse.

This can easily be a one-time thing or just an occasional get-together. I've found that some highly stressed women sometimes just need a cathartic reset to let go of the pressure.

I know regular dating scenes completely ignore this side of life. It is also a subject that many women hesitate to share out of fear of judgment or embarrassment.

So, to the women here who are into this or just curious: how would you go about finding a safe, respectful partner to play with? If you were looking for an occasional, discreet arrangement like this, where would you even begin to look?

I would love to hear your thoughts and advice!

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I'm in my late 50's. I'm a decent enough looking man and have been fortunate to have dated some pretty awesome woman over the course of my lifetime. Enjoyed some lite bdsm with several but ended up marrying a vanilla women I was head over heels about. I lost het to a disease in her 40's and after sometime began dating again. I delved in to some lite bdsm with a few that mostly centered around spanking, butt plugs, anal submission and so on. Married and divorced another vanilla women that had more to do with blending families than sex.

I don't want to really have an ongoing relationship again. I made some connections with women before and after serious relationships that wanted just a spanking (and such) in a discreet setting. I actually prefer a woman who is in a relationship and is looking to fulfill a fantasy, curiosity or as one woman wanted to be punished to keep her focus on other tasks she was failing in.

fast forward I'm finding it difficult to make those connections anymore. There are so many websites for various kinks out there that are bogus to say the least. My sense is most of the sites have made up profiles ........especially those that require monthly/yearly fee's to join.

My question is ..... where do REAL women go anymore seeking a discreet impact play fetish? Fet-life used to be good source but has so many faux profiles anymore.

Thoughts? Idea's?