u/NarrowLetter445

Basically, there’s this guy in one of my classes and I genuinely can’t tell if he likes me or if he’s just friendly.
At first, he barely talked to me and would mostly just look at me from afar. Then after I started talking to him first, he became way more talkative with me in person. We’re in the same friend group now, and even my friend noticed that he talks to me the most. He also admitted before that he was intimidated by me when we first met.

He acts normal in group settings, but when it’s just me and him, he gets quieter and kind of awkward/nervous. I also catch him looking at me a lot from across the room, but whenever I notice, he immediately acts like he wasn’t staring. Also, sometimes he replies to my selfies, but indirectly. Like instead of complimenting me directly, he’ll comment on my henna or joke about my friends hyping me up in the comments. One time he replied saying my friends’ comments were “taking him out.”

At the end of the semester, he got sentimental about missing everyone and hoping we’d all have classes together again. Then when everyone left, I waited for him and we walked together, and he offered on his own to tutor me for a summer class I’m nervous about for free.

Another thing that stood out was during finals week. Around midnight he asked the class gc for study materials, and after I sent some, we stayed up talking about the exam. I went to sleep, and then at like 2 AM he tagged me because I stopped replying and said he had made a whole study guide and wanted to send it to me (before realizing he already had my email). When I thanked him, he replied immediately at 2 AM saying stuff like “we got this.”

The confusing part is that he isn’t consistent over text at all. He’ll send me reels sometimes, but it’s rare and usually only after we’ve seen each other in person. Now it’s summer break, we haven’t talked in a week except for me wishing him happy birthday, and he’s supposed to tutor me in two weeks.

So I genuinely can’t tell if he likes me and is nervous/intimidated, or if he’s just a friendly guy and I’m overthinking everything.

I’m in college and there’s this guy I’ve been talking to gradually through classes/group settings for a few months now. We’re not super close, but we naturally end up talking a lot whenever we’re around each other and I started noticing he pays a lot of attention to me specifically than others . He also looks over at me from a distance pretty often (other people have noticed too), but he rarely directly approaches me.

What confuses me is that his behavior feels somewhere between friendly and interested. He’s mentioned before on his own that he found me intimidating, and culturally it’s also harder for guys/girls to get super close openly, so I can’t tell if he’s being cautious or just friendly.

He’s replied to my stories before and sends reels sometimes, but usually in indirect ways. For example, when I post selfies he usually doesn’t compliment me directly. One time he replied saying he liked the design on my hands, another time he replied joking about my friends’ comments under my selfie. He also recently offered to tutor me over the summer after I mentioned being nervous for a difficult class.

But outside of situations where there’s already a reason to talk, he’s not super proactive or direct either, which is why I’m confused.

From an outside perspective, does this sound like:
a guy who’s interested but cautious/feeling things out,
or am I overthinking normal friendliness because I like him?

I’m in college and there’s this guy I’ve been talking to gradually through classes/group settings for a few months now. We’re not super close, but we naturally end up talking a lot whenever we’re around each other and I started noticing he pays a lot of attention to me specifically than others . He also looks over at me from a distance pretty often (other people have noticed too), but he rarely directly approaches me.

What confuses me is that his behavior feels somewhere between friendly and interested. He’s mentioned before on his own that he found me intimidating, and culturally it’s also harder for guys/girls to get super close openly, so I can’t tell if he’s being cautious or just friendly.

He’s replied to my stories before and sends reels sometimes, but usually in indirect ways. For example, when I post selfies he usually doesn’t compliment me directly. One time he replied saying he liked the design on my hands, another time he replied joking about my friends’ comments under my selfie. He also recently offered to tutor me over the summer after I mentioned being nervous for a difficult class.

But outside of situations where there’s already a reason to talk, he’s not super proactive or direct either, which is why I’m confused.

From an outside perspective, does this sound like:
a guy who’s interested but cautious/feeling things out,
or am I overthinking normal friendliness because I like him?

There’s this guy I’ve been getting to know gradually through classes/group settings over the past few months. We were never super close, but we naturally ended up talking a lot whenever we were around each other and I started noticing that he seemed more attentive toward me specifically compared to other people around us.

At first I just thought he was attractive and nice to talk to, but over time I started actually liking him. The confusing part is that his behavior feels somewhere in between friendly and interested.

Some things that stood out to me:
- he tends to keep conversations going in person,
- I catch him looking over at me a lot in group settings when I’m with other people ( and others have noticed as well) ,but he never approaches unless it’s in our class friend group.
- he’s replied to my stories before to start conversation, but doesn’t keep them going.
- and recently after I mentioned being nervous about a difficult summer class, he offered to tutor/help me over the summer for free and suggested video calls/practice problems together.
- He also mentioned on his own that he was intimidated by me when we first met which i suspect is still slightly true.

He’s always warm and comfortable with me when we interact, and the vibe in person feels very natural/easy, but he’s also not super direct or super proactive over text outside of situations where there’s already a reason to talk. That’s what throws me off.

Part of me feels like there’s definitely some level of attraction/interest there, but another part of me worries I’m just interpreting friendliness differently because I like him.

From an outside perspective, what do y’all think. Also, I can’t just ask him because of the community me and him are both a part of. It would cause trouble.

There’s this guy I’ve been getting to know gradually through classes/group settings over the past few months. We were never super close, but we naturally ended up talking a lot whenever we were around each other and I started noticing that he seemed more attentive toward me specifically compared to other people around us.

At first I just thought he was attractive and nice to talk to, but over time I started actually liking him. The confusing part is that his behavior feels somewhere in between friendly and interested.

Some things that stood out to me:
- he tends to keep conversations going in person,
- I catch him looking over at me a lot in group settings when I’m with other people ( and others have noticed as well) ,but he never approaches unless it’s in our class friend group.
- he’s replied to my stories before to start conversation, but doesn’t keep them going.
- and recently after I mentioned being nervous about a difficult summer class, he offered to tutor/help me over the summer for free and suggested video calls/practice problems together.
- He also mentioned on his own that he was intimidated by me when we first met which is suspect is still slightly true.
He’s always warm and comfortable with me when we interact, and the vibe in person feels very natural/easy, but he’s also not super direct or super proactive over text outside of situations where there’s already a reason to talk. That’s what throws me off.

Part of me feels like there’s definitely some level of attraction/interest there, but another part of me worries I’m just interpreting friendliness differently because I like him.

From an outside perspective, what do y’all think. Also, I can’t just ask him because of the community me and him are both a part of. It would cause trouble.