u/National-Language113

My sister died, never updated her will and now her estate is going to a physically, financially, and emotionally abusive ex boyfriend. She has told me and her current boyfriend that she wants her estate to go to my children and even had appointments scheduled before she went to the hospital. Is there anything I can do? She was never married. Our dad died less than a year ago and now it looks like half of that will also go to him.
This is in Florida

My 40-year-old sister died yesterday. She had chronic pancreatitis that she was managing with medications. Over the course of a few days, she became severely ill and ended up in the ICU. She was transferred to a hospital that had a supposedly good rate of getting on the transplant list. Despite MELD score staying strong at 35-36 and needing dialysis 3x/week, they kept making her jump through so many hoops to get on the list. At one point, we were told that she might not even need a liver because her pancreas was the issue. A few days letter, they were back to transplant. Things started spiraling a week or so into physical therapy ‘prehab.’ She had excessive lactic acid buildup, went back to TICU, where they couldn’t seem to get it down. She ultimately died after being on life support for several days.

I thought I was doing the right thing for her. I thought that she just needed to get stronger in prehab and she could get the transplant. I didn’t advocate enough. I didn’t know that she could get on other lists, especially without even having to go there. I didn’t know how bad her condition had gotten. How was I so oblivious? How did I let her die? Her circle will be judgmental and ask so many questions. They will blame me. I blame me too. I am just lost.