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I feel sexually frustrated and hurt because it seems like my boyfriend only makes time for intimacy when he wants it. Whenever he initiates, I make time for him. But whenever I want to, he's usually tired from work, says "later," or is busy playing games. Most of the time, "later" never happens.

What hurts me even more is that when I bring it up, he says I'm overreacting or that I'm always complaining, so I end up feeling like my needs don't matter as much as his.

My partner works from home, so I understand that his job can be stressful and mentally draining. I don't expect him to force himself if he's genuinely exhausted. However, after work, he still has time and energy to play games, which makes me wonder why there's rarely time left for us when I'm the one initiating intimacy.

To be clear, this isn't because I don't have my own life. I have hobbies, I run a small business, and I also have a part-time job. I'm not asking for constant attention. I just want our intimacy to feel mutual instead of only happening when it's convenient for him.

I've talked to him about how this makes me feel several times. I tried explaining that it's not just about sex but also about feeling wanted and that my needs matter too. However, the conversation usually ends with him saying I'm overreacting or that I always have something to complain about, so nothing really changes.

OA lang ba ako, or is this a valid concern? How would you approach this if you were in my situation?

Problem/Goal:

I feel sexually frustrated and hurt because it seems like my boyfriend only makes time for intimacy when he wants it. Whenever he initiates, I make time for him. But whenever I want to, he's usually tired from work, says "later," or is busy playing games. Most of the time, "later" never happens.

What hurts me even more is that when I bring it up, he says I'm overreacting or that I'm always complaining, so I end up feeling like my needs don't matter as much as his.

Context:

My partner works from home, so I understand that his job can be stressful and mentally draining. I don't expect him to force himself if he's genuinely exhausted. However, after work, he still has time and energy to play games, which makes me wonder why there's rarely time left for us when I'm the one initiating intimacy.

To be clear, this isn't because I don't have my own life. I have hobbies, I run a small business, and I also have a part-time job. I'm not asking for constant attention. I just want our intimacy to feel mutual instead of only happening when it's convenient for him.

Previous Attempts:

I've talked to him about how this makes me feel several times. I tried explaining that it's not just about sex but also about feeling wanted and that my needs matter too. However, the conversation usually ends with him saying I'm overreacting or that I always have something to complain about, so nothing really changes.

Am I overreacting, or is this a valid concern? How would you approach this if you were in my situation?

Problem/Goal:

Hindi ko alam kung valid ba na na-off at na-bother ako sa nangyari, or baka sensitive lang ako.

Context:

May friend yung boyfriend ko na nagkukwento tungkol sa bagong nililigawan niya. Habang nagkukwento yung friend niya tungkol sa background ng girl, napansin ko na parang impressed si bf at napa-"wow" pa. Later on, narinig ko rin siyang magtanong kung maganda ba yung girl. Wala naman siyang sinabing disrespectful or anything, at parang inaasar lang din nila yung friend nila tungkol sa nililigawan niya. Pero for some reason, na-bother ako sa reaction niya. First time ko ma-feel ito kaya nalilito ako kung saan nanggagaling yung feeling.

Previous Attempts:

Sinubukan kong isipin na baka normal lang na curious ang mga tao kapag may kinukwento na bagong nililigawan ang kaibigan nila, pero bothered pa rin ako at hindi ko ma-pinpoint kung bakit.

We lost someone close to our family today. She was a nanay and a longtime churchmate, so we’ve known her since we were kids.

May something lang na napansin ng mom ko na ilang beses na nangyari. Kaninang madaling araw, may narinig siyang bird na ang tunog parang tuko, yung distinct na paulit-ulit na sound, pero hindi naman daw tuko. What’s eerie is, ganito rin daw yung narinig niya before namatay yung lola ko and tatay ko. Bago sila mawala, may ganung klaseng tunog siyang naririnig madaling araw.

Because of that, she started associating that sound with someone about to pass. Hindi ko sure if coincidence lang ba or may explanation scientific or even pamahiin. May naka-experience na po ba ng ganito here? Or may idea po kayo kung anong ibon yung may tunog na parang tuko?