Financial red flags in girls family
Hi, not making any claims but trying to make something about the situation being a guy. I am 35 male talking to a 34 year old girl in arranged marriage setup. I recently started looking into arranged marriage after relocating to India.
- Our parents live in same town. Girl's mom asked all our address - block, house number, address but refused to give their location (or even block number). Let children decide first. My father was not happy that they should not have asked all our family details either.
- Girls mom did not tell much about the father. She said he is in real estate. Girl has a sister who is doing MBA.
- Girl is working in a top company with 14 years of experience. As per her profile she is earning 50 lacs of base pay. But she has no linkedin. She says she never felt the need for LinkedIn as she hates social media. I too hate social media, no facebook/insta but I have a linkedin.
- But she is staying in a shared PG of a tier-1 city. I checked rent in PG in that city, it is between 5000 to 7000 INR for shared. She says she often changes PG as sometimes girls sharing the room are not good. I asked why not get a flat or individual room, but she never answered.
- On one occasion, she was talking about public transit safety for girls in night. I mentioned a car might be good as it would give her more independence. She said she is scared of driving, and individual cars are bad for nature.
- She is good to talk. Lot of things are similar, we seem to like each other. Her mother told my mom she has never seen her daughter this happy after she met me. We have been talking for 15 days, and met once. She says she doesn't want to drag things for long. I mentioned even I have no intention, I want to meet her in-person once. We should at least talk for 3 to 4 weeks, and meet at least twice. I am ready to take flight just for the weekend for that. She said she is not into dating and meeting again and again. She declines video call too saying she is shy. My point was sometimes its easier to talk freely when seeing each other.
- Also, I became US national last year. I wanted to be in some advance stage before telling this to her when we meet in-person again. Maybe I am thinking to just say, benefit if you get into something legal/fake case, countries do use their diplomatic clout to ensure their citizens get fair chance. Just as a test.
Just curious. Is there something off? Or I am reading too much. I am bit skeptical of girl's family finances. If there is any financial dependencies, should I clearly ask her. One of my distant friend went with something where girl family did ask for a huge amount otherwise take the legal consequence.
I know most people are nice, but Indian laws are maybe making me paranoid? Thanks