u/NeatOk2938

I’ve been living and working in Phuket for 6 months now for a local charity. Today I decided to drive across to the mainland, just outside the gates into Phuket for a run. On my way back, I was pulled over at the checkpoint for a search. This is the first time this has happened (although I usually drive with my Thai girlfriend, today I was a foreigner alone). But it was pretty intense. 3 police asked me to get out the car, they did a body check, and fully searched the car, going through my bags, my girlfriend purse which she left in there, jacket pockets in the back, in the compartment in the boot. They even asked me ‘where I live, where I had been and where specifically I ran, where do I work, what job I do’. But not once did they ask me for ID, or my driving licence. Everything was fine and they let me go. I think it’s pretty obvious this was because I was a foreigner - which I understand a lot of foreigners get pulled over on bikes, but I was in a car and this didn’t feel like a ‘let’s see if this guy has a licence’, this felt like an intense search. What were they looking for? Is this normal?

Me (m27) and my girlfriend (f27) have been dating for 6 months in Thailand where we both work. She recently moved to Malaysia (1.5 hours away) for a new job. We are doing long-distance. She just told me she is moving in with her friend who lives in a house share, but in the same room and sharing the same bed. Her friend is a girl (I don’t know her sexuality, but that’s not the point). I’m uncomfortable because sharing a bed is an intimate thing. It’s one of the best things about a relationship. As we will be doing long-distance, her friend will be the first person she sees when she wakes and the last person she sees at night. From the outside, it will look like they are in a relationship, and I’m just the guy she sees a few times each month to have sex with in a hotel. How do I handle this and tell my girlfriend I think this is crossing boundaries? We won’t get a lot of intimate moments anymore, and now she’ll be having this ‘sharing a bed’ with someone else more than me

tl;dr: girlfriend is sharing a bed permanently with her friend

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 3 months now. About a year ago, she used to sleep with and travel with a French guy. She wanted a relationship, but he didn’t. I found out today that they still speak as friends. But it makes me a little uncomfortable she’s still talking to a guy she used to sleep with and wanted more from. I would never want to say ‘you can’t talk to him’ and be a toxic boyfriend, but I’m unsure whether I just need to leave it. He lives in France and we live in Thailand