u/NeitherChair3

I've been taking classes & social dancing for 6 months. I still feel like I'm terrible.

If I lead a dance and someone tells me it was nice or I'm a good lead, I smile, but inside I know its not true. I see the advanced, creative moves other leads do, and the smiles on their follow's face. I have a bunch of moves, and sometimes I do them.

A follow once told me to be more musical instead of just doing moves. I'm supposed to know the song, anticipate the changes, and move accordingly? This idea that I'm not musical has really wormed its way into my brain.

I went to a hip hop/edm event and it was so much more fun. I didn't have pressure to lead my partner. No girl looked bored at me, or declined a dance. Everyone was really friendly, there wasn't the weird social hierarchy/cliques like happen in latin socials.

So yeah I think I might switch. Any advice appreciated, how much longer doing bachata until I can really express myself and make a more fun experience for my partner?

Hi! I made a free, open-source website for Boston salsa: bostonsalsa.org

You can see events on the map, and filter it with a date or salsa/bachata filters. It also has a feed view if you don't like the map.

I'm grateful for a few people sharing their curated Google Calendar feeds with me to make it possible. I'm not sure how to expand it to more cities, or if anyone has better ideas on how to get events. So annoying that most things are walled-off in Instagram or Facebook events!

A vibe-coder from another city could reuse the code/remake it for their city pretty easily.

Any feedback or suggestions would be appreciated. I just wanted to make a free resource :)

Hi!

I'm a 23M programmer. I work in Seaport and I've been in Boston for 7 months. I like running, programming, chess, soccer, and latin dancing. Over the summer I want to explore more areas of Boston: like hiking, sailing, the beach, biking.

I'm pretty flexible, but I'd like to be either in Central, on the Red line, or on the Orange line.

My budget is $1500. I'd hope to be friends with my roommates, but if not, if we could all be clean that would be great, lol.

Hi! I recently fixed my hinge profile and am now actually getting some dates. I go on a date, have a nice chat. At the end I try to go for a hug. And usually the chat is fun, she's smiling, laughing, whatever.

I get that girls always end with a "see you later! Nice to meet you!" just to be polite. Is it safe to assume that unless she has really wide eyes and open body language at the end, that she had a nice time but doesn't want to see me again?

Is it worth messaging her? I just feel like, how can we really build compatibility in a 2 hour date?

Am I just boring, how do I improve?

I feel like the conversations are fun, we are both sharing stories. But I know you'll all tell me that if the girl says she "has to go study for the LSAT", or another girl declines to hold my hand on a walk, that they are probably not into me, and I shouldn't send a follow up text.

I would just appreciate any advice on how to first date better. And also how to accept that first dates that are fun but don't go anywhere are the 99% likely outcome.

23M, Boston.