u/Nelo999

I am referring to the following video:

https://youtube.com/shorts/jjQU9b_1BGU

You have the typical "Male Feminists" in the comments section, saying this happens to their female friends all the time and they have to intervene and defend them and another women saying that even though not all men are like that, enough men are to have such experiences every single day of her life.

I have lots of female friends personally and this has never happened to them, yet I know multiple men that have been sexually harassed, myself included.

Secondly, if you claim that you are being overwhelmed by "creeps" every single day of your life, I am sorry but I don't believe your overly exaggerated statements.

I am not saying that it doesn't happen because it unfortunately does, but every single day?

Simultaneously, we have many viral videos of women complaining they rarely get approached anymore and that men don't show interest to them:

https://youtu.be/y66Qo0rA7w8

https://youtu.be/JR-25LSqTyY

https://youtu.be/iy2hZe6k7io

https://youtu.be/u80Okt-8PhA

https://youtu.be/NB3HiB0BJ6c

https://youtu.be/NgZjdnR4NAI

https://youtube.com/shorts/LdD6KasTGww

https://youtube.com/shorts/QUgyqK-rh10

https://youtu.be/sS2jae4yMfw

https://youtu.be/45XSc9NhXcw

https://youtu.be/z0Xp2lwyi0I

https://youtube.com/shorts/2uln3pMmjkA

Even research backs this up, with 77% of women claiming they wished they are approched and shown interest more often:

https://www.vice.com/en/article/why-gen-z-and-millennial-men-arent-making-the-first-move-anymore/

https://nypost.com/2026/01/06/lifestyle/gen-z-millennial-men-faced-with-approach-anxiety-and-dont-date/

So, how can it possibly be that women are overwhelmed by "creeps" left and right, yet most women complain they rarely get approached or shown interest?

Most men rarely approach women anymore, or stare at them and show interest to them, heck many women complain they are completely invisible and that men don't even look at them.

Can you understand why such obviously "fake" and doctored social media clips are unconvincing and are only created to become viral in order to get brownie points from the "Feminists" on the internet?

Moral of the story is, never believe everything that you read and see online, always stay true to your own due diligence and conduct your independent research afterwards.

I come across that sentiment quite often, with individuals claiming they receive zero attention from the opposite or the same sex, therefore they must be unattractive and unworthy of love.

But I want to push back against said mentality a little bit by highlighting the fact that many individuals out there are incredibly shy and afraid of expressing any interest they deem necessary.

Additionally, many individuals legitimately never notice people they fancy because they are so focused on running errands and are preoccupied with everyday responsibilities and priorities.

Perhaps, you might indeed be attractive to others, but you might never be informed about it or even notice.

Sure, this does not indicate that you must have countless of secret admirers or whatever, but as long as you are putting effort into your appearance, your interests, hobbies and passions and your social life, it's pretty much impossible for someone out there to not have developed a crush on yourself at some point in your life.

Always remember that most people out there are just average looking, they are neither attractive but nor unattractive, therefore it is highly probable that at least some people out there might have developed a crush on yourself but they may never tell you for various reasons.

That is especially true for women, because they rarely show active interest in and approach men and when they do so, it is usually in a more subtle manner.

I am decently attractive myself, I do put effort into my appearance and have an active social life.

I am 6'5", I go to the gym regularly and I am fashionable, I wear suits, shirts and ties in the weekends when I am out at nightclubs and parties with my friends yet I absolutely receive zero attention from women.

And when I say zero, I mean absolutely zero attention, no looks, stares, compliments, absolutely nothing, I am absolutely invisible (I am a pretty observant individual and my sister and female friends have also told me they never once caught a woman checking me out, ever).

I have only been approached or shown interest twice by women in my life, one woman was at a nightclub who stared at myself and nudged me to come and talk to her but it turned out that she had a boyfriend and was fishing for attention and another woman flat out hit on me at the gym and asked for my number (we actually changed numbers and dated for a while).

In all of my romantic experiences, I have made the first move, I remember that I dated a woman briefly in the summer 5 years ago and she legitimately told me that she never once noticed me until I approached her and we started talking.

During our first date, she told me that I am handsome and that she liked my style and we dated for 3 months but she had to go back to her country because she was working as a bartender for the summer season.

She was very cute, bubbly and social and was also very lovely, affectionate and attentive.

After I graduated from high school, I learned from a friend of mine there was a girl that had a crush on me at high school but she never told me because she migrated with her family to New Zealand and at University, there was a female friend of mine who actively told me she thought that we were more than just friends during graduation (I friendzoned that chick hard).

I do believe that online dating might be skewing the perceptions and the numbers a little bit, but you still need to remember the overwhelming majority of couples do not meet through online dating:

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/02/key-findings-about-online-dating-in-the-u-s/

Real life interactions are still the way to go and it is how most couples meet, so get off the dating platforms, build your life and become the best version of yourself and do not loose hope!