AITA for asking my brother to move his wedding date after he finally found the love of his life?
First time poster here. I, 31 YOF, have been dating my fiance, 35 YOM, since last October and our wedding is planned for early August of this year. I was hoping people wouldn't judge us for getting married so fast. My brother, 36 YOM, has been dating his girlfriend, 29 YOF for 2 months and he just told me he wants to propose.
At first I thought to myself, "I'm happy for him, he's been waiting so long to find love." But honestly... so have I. Here's the kicker: He asked to get drinks last night and ended up telling me he wants to get married TWO WEEKS before my wedding. Suddenly I don't feel so embarrassed for not even knowing my fiance for a year. My knee jerk reaction was to be supportive. I'm so terrified of falling into the "bridezilla" stereotype.
Now I'm cornered into a position where I'm afraid to be confrontational because it shatters the chill, unbothered, drama-free aura that I'm trying to maintain. I was very understanding and supportive in the moment, but I did raise a couple of concerns to my brother. 1) Our mother's mental health is delicate and tends to unravel around big life events. 2) I will have to move my bachelorette.
I haven't even gotten to the worse part yet. I asked him where they will live and this requires a little backstory. My parents have 2 houses and one of them is paid for and close to town, the other is out in the country. My brother knows he will inherit the house in town when my parents pass. He ends up telling me that he wants to ask my parents to move into the house in town.
I was confused and asked, "haven't you been saving up a down payment for a home?" Well, turns out he doesn't have enough credit history, and his girlfriend's credit was supposedly ruined by her ex. So they want my parents to move to the house out in the country so they can rent the house in town from my parents. Y'all, my dad has heart disease and my mom will be further from her grandkids. I'm praying my parents put their foot down on this one.
Oh, and get this. My bachelorette party was supposed to be the evening my brother wants to get married. So I am having to text all my bridesmaids and see if they can reschedule. Now one of my besties from out of town likely can't come.
How do I navigate this without being accused of being a bitch? I've talked to my parents about this and they are just expecting me to be understanding and supportive.