u/Nevermore170

WIBTA if I told my friend about her boyfriend and his comments?

I (21F) worked at this restaurant with my friend (21F) and her boyfriend (22F). I'll call him Mark. My friend, I'll call her Sidney, left a couple years ago while her boyfriend stayed and the two of us worked together.

A year ago, Sidney tells me that Mark had broken up with her but they're still going out together. He said it was a situationship now, hooking up with her while talking to other girls at his other job.

My friend is one of the kindest people I've ever met and I could see that this was affecting her badly. I've told her to leave him, but she remained loyal to him and stayed waiting until Mark decided he wanted to get back with her. However, in the middle of the situationship, Mark accidentally posted a photo of him hugging another girl and deleted it immediately after. I told her about it and she snapped at me.

I understood that maybe I was getting into their business and didn't tell her anything else. When they got back together, I stayed silent and supported her.

Recently in the past couple months, I caught Mark talk about the girls he's seen and say that he would smash them and talked to the other guys about who was the hottest girl at the restaurant. I didn't say a thing, but he looked at me and told me not to tell Sydney. I didn't tell her, not because he told me, but because my boyfriend told me that I should mind my own business since me and Sydney don't talk as much anymore.

I find out through the discord server while Mark was in a call with the other guys that he was making jokes about everyone cheating on their partners. I stayed silent again.

However, last week we were both talking and Mark stares at me and tells me "Hey, don't tell Sydney. But lowkey, I would smash our boss" (Who is a woman twice our age) And you could see that his face fell when he realized that he shouldn't have said that. I immediately walked away and told my boyfriend, who again told me to mind my own business.

But I feel bad.

I'm also scared that maybe I might get caught between the two and cause a breakup. I don't want to see her get hurt or get upset with me that I wasn't minding my own business.

WIBTA if I told her?

I (21F) worked at this restaurant with my friend (21F) and her boyfriend (22F). I'll call him Mark. My friend, I'll call her Sidney, left a couple years ago while her boyfriend stayed and the two of us worked together.

A year ago, Sidney tells me that Mark had broken up with her but they're still going out together. He said it was a situationship now, hooking up with her while talking to other girls at his other job.

My friend is one of the kindest people I've ever met and I could see that this was affecting her badly. I've told her to leave him, but she remained loyal to him and stayed waiting until Mark decided he wanted to get back with her. However, in the middle of the situationship, Mark accidentally posted a photo of him hugging another girl and deleted it immediately after. I told her about it and she snapped at me.

I understood that maybe I was getting into their business and didn't tell her anything else. When they got back together, I stayed silent and supported her.

Recently in the past couple months, I caught Mark talk about the girls he's seen and say that he would smash them and talked to the other guys about who was the hottest girl at the restaurant. I didn't say a thing, but he looked at me and told me not to tell Sydney. I didn't tell her, not because he told me, but because my boyfriend told me that I should mind my own business since me and Sydney don't talk as much anymore.

I find out through the discord server while Mark was in a call with the other guys that he was making jokes about everyone cheating on their partners. I stayed silent again.

However, last week we were both talking and Mark stares at me and tells me "Hey, don't tell Sydney. But lowkey, I would smash our boss" (Who is a woman twice our age) And you could see that his face fell when he realized that he shouldn't have said that. I immediately walked away and told my boyfriend, who again told me to mind my own business.

But I feel bad.

I'm also scared that maybe I might get caught between the two and cause a breakup. I don't want to see her get hurt or get upset with me that I wasn't minding my own business.

WIBTA if I told her?