Ex has moved a homeless woman into our family home & he's known her six weeks
So the headline says it all. I have three adult children, two of whom still stay at home. I had to leave our home due to the verbal abuse I received for not bringing in any income whilst I did a Masters. But it started way before then, when I was diagnosed with a degenerative disease. He was abusive to the kids, but as he said, he was the only one with a job and could put food on the table, so it was not for moving. Things had calmed down after I left, as he stayed out most nights and the kids didn't see much of him. A few weeks ago he met an artist who has no home; she lives in her art studio. Their relationship is being conducted from the comfort of our home. All the kids have said that they are uncomfortable with this situation and he says that he doesn't care. He's happy for the first time in years.
I have written a letter to her which I want to post to her studio; the kids are worried that their Dad will go nuclear if he finds out, as he is prone to do. I am a Buddhist, and err on the side of wanting to do things peacefully, but I'm concerned for the kids who are depressed about the situation and want to leave home. I want to act. I have recently gotten a small flat with enough bedrooms for everyone, so my question is - do I move the kids out and just leave the woman in ignorance or do I let her know the massive inconvenience and costs that her actions have created? The kids are 16 and 19 so not little children, but they have already been through so much change with our separation and being left with the "evil parent" whilst I was homeless. The divorce is taking a while, it galls me to think of the two of them in my home, using all the things I bought, wedding presents and such. AAAARGH !