Sexting in long term relationships
Married 17 years. Long history of sex issues in our marriage. Currently not going well and had a recent argument/discussion again….lots of things here.
But if your partner texted you that they were horny, what would your response be to them?
Would you just ask questions? Push it off? Ask them what they want? Encourage them to act on that feeling (go rub one out, thinking of me doing x,y,z)? Start sexting back and see where it goes? Send nudes? Maybe a video of you masterbating?
As an example. I sent my wife a text earlier while at work saying that I was really horny. She didn’t respond as she was at a work event. But after her event she called and asked how I would like her to respond to those texts….my initial reaction was frustration and just shut down. Like what do you mean? Tell me how you want my body, desire me, tease me, tell me if I have time to go to the bathroom and rub one out while thinking of me…etc…
This will now illicit another long convo later. But if the roles were reversed (I wish) and she sent me a text saying she was super horny. I would immediately text back, entice, encourage, tell her to start touching herself, telling her I wish I was there to x,y,z her, etc….
And that’s where frustration lies. She has no drive, no tact with sex, no thinking “man I want my husband so hard right now and about to blow”, how can I make it happen kind of thoughts.
tl;dr
If your partner tells you they are horny in a text. How do you respond?