u/NewPraline9922

I am Venezuelan-American and I am having a hard time trying to work since the double earthquake destroyed Venezuela. My whole family lives where the earthquakes hit. I just got news my cousin passed away and overall people my family grew up with passed away. Each day since the disaster, I am getting more updates on the matter from my immediate family. My grandparents don’t have a home. The worst part is I still haven’t heard from a lot of people there. I try to answer every call to the best of my availability cause they are in and out of service, so I don’t want a phone call to be the last. I am trying to not cry in the office or when people ask me how I have been. The worst case is half of my team is on vacation and I feel like I can’t just pull a grievance leave but I don’t want others to feel bad. People are telling to control my emotions at work and say it makes me look bad, but my heart has never been so torn. I feel guilty cause I was supposed to be there next month. How do I go about this with my job? What is the course of action? Am I at risk losing my job?

I am curious of the shift or perspective change you guys had dating in your 20’s versus dating 30’s or much older (whatever age you guys are now)? Things you guys valued or sought after originally but don’t anymore? Things that turn you off that didn’t before? Something you would tell your younger self? Or for those who committed young, what are your thoughts now?

I believe some people are better equipped for it than others. I won’t lie, I found myself feeling lonely and honestly wishing I shared it with someone. I don’t see anyone online talking about the cons. Of course I rather go than wait for someone who can’t, but I am having a hard time with it. I don’t really think it lives up to what people make it out to be on social media.

I am 22F and am starting a corporate career, I remember really aspiring this and wanting to be the top and after over a year, I find myself not desiring that life style whatsoever. I am willing to work and being self sufficient but not to this high of a level honestly as it doesn’t seem fulfilling. I firmly a believe a women should strive for as high as they want to be but I am curious on what men truly think about women who wants this path? I think I have turned men off in the past and honestly felt being a career woman left no balance for a meaningful life.

I am a female in her 20’s and I am curious of the perspective of men who are dating in this age range. I am hearing more men choosing to be solo or more independent in their peace (not saying its a bad thing). I find this such a sad thing but I don’t know if this is generalized or not for single men of this age group. Dating for me has been nothing but horrible with genuine intentions, always wondered about the rest. I know its rough for older women too I have heard. I am sad with the direction of society and the dating behaviors normalized.

Edit: Yes, I know my headline has a typo.