AITAH for not planning to be a part of my sisters wedding day
Back story- I(32f) and my sister (36) are eachothers only siblings. We have never been super close but we always know we’re there for each other. I got married back in 2021 and didn’t ask her to be my MOH because for 1, we were never close and 2, she was in the downward spiral of an addition. I still had her as a bridesmaid because I’m not heartless.
She ended up pulling me aside and voicing how offended she was that her only sister wouldn’t have her be the MOH and if she wasn’t the MOH she didn’t even want to attend.
So I bit the bullet and took one for the team to keep the peace during my own wedding and upgraded her to MOH, but kept my original too because I knew my sister was incapable of handling or planning anything- which is the job of a MOH- not just to stand up there and look cute the day of. She ended up bailing on my bachelorette to detox from drugs and her addict boyfriend caused a scene at my wedding. I never held a grudge, Idc we had a good time.
Anyway fast forward to now, she’s engaged(different guy) off the drugs, and getting married this weekend. Even when she got engaged I only found out because my mom told me. She literally doesn’t talk to me.
When I brought up being her maid of honor to my mom, my mom told me she wasn’t having a wedding party. Whatever, weird move on her part since she made such a huge deal about mine but I accepted it. I went to the bridal shower because my mom asked me to, everything has been fine but this whole time my sister hasn’t made any attempt to involve me in anything.
Now, three days before the wedding I just found out she expects me to be there all day with her the day of and get ready with her?? I also have a daughter I had planned to get ready who my sister stated she does not want there getting ready ahead of time with us. This has all been communicated to our MOM! Not once has my sister reached out or set expectations or asked me to be there and just assumed i would be. Am i wrong here? I thought I would arrive with my family as a guest because thats been the tone she set early on even when I was asking what color dress to get so family photos look nice.
Anyway lots of rambling, AITAH??
Should I go??
Help.