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Hey, so I just wanted peoples thoughts on this situation.. my Ex partner whom I was with 11 years and share 3 children with is getting married today. Me and him have been split around 6 years and I don’t feel anything for him anymore. He moved on, I’m still single, the relationship was not good for me and it took me a long time to get myself in a good mindset and feel good emotionally again. I still have days of insecurity and wonder if I ever will find love again, but I’m doing ok. I have a best friend who saw first hand the things I went through in that relationship, well anyways fast forward to today.. my ex partners new bride to be is a member of my best friends partner, her boyfriend is the brides cousin. My best friend is going to the wedding even though she can’t stand my ex and to be honest isn’t even close at all with the bride. Also to add her boyfriend isn’t attending who is family to her, due to family issues so she is going with her brother in law, Another cousin of the bride. I just don’t know now how to feel about all this now. The wedding is today.

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I 28F and my coparent 30m have a child together and have a court ordered parenting time schedule .

There has been a history of disagreements and problems surrounding my parenting time, so I try to be careful about how I handle exchanges and communication.

On Saturday, I picked up our child for my weekend. Shortly after I left, my coparent texted me asking me to make sure our child didn’t take anything with him. I told him our child had a small, inexpensive personal accessory item with him. He asked me to take it away from him, so I did.

After pick up we went directly to visit a relative, and I forgot the item at their house .

The following day I’m on my way to drop our child off to my coparent and 30 minutes before our normal exchange time they ask me if I could drop off 30 minutes later than normal or they could come pick them up . I explained that I was already on my way, but wouldn’t mind turning around, and asked they pick him up if so.

Once coparent arrived, our child got in the car and just moments later, got out of the car completely distraught,walking towards me crying saying coparent said he needed the item.

I went over to the car and explained that the item had been left at the relative’s house and that I would get it the following weekend as it was not something our child needed throughout the week .

coparent was not satisfied with that solution and told me I needed to go get it now. The relative lives in a neighboring state about a 30-minute drive from my house and 10 minutes from where coparent lives. I told him I was not going back to retrieve it that night , as it was a small, inexpensive item that again , wasn’t necessary for our child to have throughout the week .

I did offer that If he wanted it tonight, he was more than welcome to go get it as the relative lives much closer to him .

He then told me I was being defiant and accused me of being unwilling to coparent.
By that point, our child was crying and holding onto me extremely upset.

He repeatedly asked me if he was still going to be able to see me the following weekend .

Coparent has a history of interfering with my parenting time which is why our child was so unsure if he would be “allowed” to see me so I reassured him that I would be there.

There were several people present who witnessed the exchange and who agree with me, but dealing with someone like this makes you feel like you’re going crazy.

So Reddit -
AITA for refusing to go retrieve the item that night after offing alternative solutions or should I have went to please coparent?

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So a lot of people have been asking what the item is and I I was trying to maintain some sort of anonymity. As much as possible anyway, but it is relevant to the story, so the item is a clip on shoe light. Literally just clips on to the shoe laces or tongue of the shoe.

Other context that I think is relevant is the “relative” is not a relative of mine, but fathers. That’s a story within itself, but I feel it’s important for our child to maintain that relationship and I make sure to take him to go see them weekly .

Hello! I 23 F Emily have a friend 25 F Trisha who is dating her current ldr bf 25 M Oscar who have been together for 2 years. The beginning of their relationship was drama since Trisha was with her ex at the time and then got together with Oscar but they were talking while she was with her ex. Now the ending is drama since she’s now talking with another guy as well AT THE SAME TIME!!!

I was friends with Oscar before her but I did get closer with her later. They broke up recently but got back together during a special event since he wanted to try again and she felt bad. This is where it gets interesting, Oscar wants to try and fix things which she has agreed to. Little does he know she has been talking to another guy and has recently agreed to be his gf on the day she and Oscar broke up. AND she plans on breaking up with Oscar within the next month or two which he doesn’t know.

For context, he did know about the other guy and was worried about him but trusted that she had it handled and wouldn’t take things further than just being friends. Also, her parents hate Oscar but love the new guy. I care about both people and both come to me to vent about each other. They are both just two different people and both are great and have been trying to work on their relationship. I just don’t agree with them being together since it’s been getting so toxic on both sides. WIBTAH if I told him about the other guy or is it not my place?

I (27 F) have been with my boyfriend (28 M) for 10 years. While dropping him off at home, we found a stray cat in his apartment complex. I am a certified cat lady as I have one of my own and feed the strays in my apartment complex daily . He had some chicken he bought from a gas station and gave it a few pieces. He then began playing a “too slow” game with it teasing it with a piece. I told him to stop and just give it to them or don’t and he didn’t. This is where I may be the AH. I grabbed his wrist and forced him to drop it and he proceeded to kick the cat . I immediately started crying in which he said “ get the fuck away from me you sissy” which he later apologized for. He says he only lightly kicked the cat and it’s just a stray in which I responded he’s a psychopath and went home. Typing this out now I feel I was justified . But guys, would I be the asshole if I ended the relationship over this? It’s made me see him in a new light. We’ve been talking about getting engaged this month but at this point, I’m over it.