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My husband (20M) and I (23F) recently got married with just under 300 people. My parents and my husband’s dad and stepmom paid for the wedding.
We had 300 cupcakes in four different flavors for our guests, plus a separate cheesecake specifically for my husband and me to cut. My husband doesn’t like regular cake but absolutely loves cheesecake, so a family friend who makes amazing cheesecakes specially made one for us as a wedding gift. They only make them for special occasions, so this was especially meaningful to us, and my husband was really looking forward to having it at our wedding. For context, this family friend has also sold some of their cheesecakes for anywhere from $200–$400, so this isn’t something that would necessarily be cheap or easy to replace.
The cheesecake was on its own individual table in the dessert area, separate from the cupcakes. The table had wheels so it could be wheeled out to the dance floor for our scheduled cake cutting. Our engraved wedding utensils were sitting next to it.
The venue workers were supposed to bring it out about 10–15 minutes before we were scheduled to cut the cake. While my husband and I were finishing dinner at the head table, our wedding planner came over and told us that one of our guests had cut into our cheesecake.
That guest was my husband’s great-uncle.
He cut himself a piece using our engraved utensils and started eating it. Then other guests started taking pieces too. Our wedding planner realized what was happening and got after the venue staff because they hadn’t noticed or stopped it sooner. By the time we were actually able to do our cake cutting, only about a quarter of the cheesecake was left. My husband and I got a few bites before it was gone.
When it was brought up to his great-uncle afterward, he didn’t apologize or seem particularly bothered. He basically laughed and said something along the lines of, “Well, it was good.”
I honestly don’t understand how you see 300 cupcakes available for guests and decide to cut into the one cheesecake sitting separately on its own table, especially when the engraved wedding utensils were literally right next to it.
I wouldn’t say this ruined our wedding. We had an amazing wedding, and obviously there are much more important things than dessert. But it was our one and only wedding, and this cheesecake was specially made for us as a wedding gift because it was my husband’s favorite dessert. We also can’t just go to a store and replace it.
My husband thinks we should just let it go. His response is basically, “That’s just how that side of the family is.”
I, however, feel differently. I think people sometimes continue acting like assholes because everyone around them accepts it as “that’s just how they are.”
So, WIBTA if I actually mailed his great-uncle an invoice for the cheesecake?
I’m not trying to claim that he “ruined” our wedding or put a dollar amount on the sentimental value. I was thinking of invoicing him for what a comparable cheesecake would have cost, since he essentially took most of something that was specially made for us. Would that be justified, or would sending an actual invoice just make me an asshole too?

EDIT: Adding some context since there seem to be a few misconceptions in the comments.
My husband's great-uncle is in his late 50s/early 60s, and the cheesecake was kept in a refrigerator/cooler in the back until the wedding planner/venue staff brought it out for the cake cutting. It was brought out specifically to be displayed and cut, like a wedding cake. I was busy being the bride and assumed the venue staff had it handled.
The cheesecake was made by an elderly family friend, and there's a very real possibility this was the last cheesecake they will ever make, so it was especially meaningful to us.
The invoice was also more of a joke between my husband and me. We're happily married and aren't actually expecting his uncle to pay it. His mom and stepdad even agreed we should send it and basically said, "That's just how he is."
I think some of the reactions are based on assumptions that weren't part of the original situation, so hopefully this clears up some of the missing context. The venue/planner probably could have handled the cheesecake situation better, and that's fair criticism.

And just to be clear, I’m not the only one who thinks his behavior was inappropriate. My husband and mother-in-law both AGREE with me. My mother-in-law says send the invoice (her uncle) but my husband doesn’t want to cause (potential) family drama.

My husband (21M) and I (23F) recently got married with just under 300 people. My parents and my husband’s dad and stepmom paid for the wedding.
We had 300 cupcakes in four different flavors for our guests, plus a separate cheesecake specifically for my husband and me to cut. My husband doesn’t like regular cake but absolutely loves cheesecake, so a family friend who makes amazing cheesecakes specially made one for us as a wedding gift. They only make them for special occasions, so this was especially meaningful to us, and my husband was really looking forward to having it at our wedding. For context, this family friend has also sold some of their cheesecakes for anywhere from $200–$400, so this isn’t something that would necessarily be cheap or easy to replace.
The cheesecake was on its own individual table in the dessert area, separate from the cupcakes. The table had wheels so it could be wheeled out to the dance floor for our scheduled cake cutting. Our engraved wedding utensils were sitting next to it.
The venue workers were supposed to bring it out about 10–15 minutes before we were scheduled to cut the cake. While my husband and I were finishing dinner at the head table, our wedding planner came over and told us that one of our guests had cut into our cheesecake.
That guest was my husband’s great-uncle.
He cut himself a piece using our engraved utensils and started eating it. Then other guests started taking pieces too. Our wedding planner realized what was happening and got after the venue staff because they hadn’t noticed or stopped it sooner. By the time we were actually able to do our cake cutting, only about a quarter of the cheesecake was left. My husband and I got a few bites before it was gone.
When it was brought up to his great-uncle afterward, he didn’t apologize or seem particularly bothered. He basically laughed and said something along the lines of, “Well, it was good.”
I honestly don’t understand how you see 300 cupcakes available for guests and decide to cut into the one cheesecake sitting separately on its own table, especially when the engraved wedding utensils were literally right next to it.
I wouldn’t say this ruined our wedding. We had an amazing wedding, and obviously there are much more important things than dessert. But it was our one and only wedding, and this cheesecake was specially made for us as a wedding gift because it was my husband’s favorite dessert. We also can’t just go to a store and replace it.
My husband thinks we should just let it go. His response is basically, “That’s just how that side of the family is.”
I, however, feel differently. I think people sometimes continue acting like assholes because everyone around them accepts it as “that’s just how they are.”
So, WIBTA if I actually mailed his great-uncle an invoice for the cheesecake?
I’m not trying to claim that he “ruined” our wedding or put a dollar amount on the sentimental value. I was thinking of invoicing him for what a comparable cheesecake would have cost, since he essentially took most of something that was specially made for us. Would that be justified, or would sending an actual invoice just make me an asshole too?

EDIT: Adding some context since there seem to be a few misconceptions in the comments.
My husband's great-uncle is in his late 50s/early 60s, and the cheesecake was kept in a refrigerator/cooler in the back until the wedding planner/venue staff brought it out for the cake cutting. It was brought out specifically to be displayed and cut, like a wedding cake. I was busy being the bride and assumed the venue staff had it handled.
The cheesecake was made by an elderly family friend, and there's a very real possibility this was the last cheesecake they will ever make, so it was especially meaningful to us.
The invoice was also more of a joke between my husband and me. We're happily married and aren't actually expecting his uncle to pay it. His mom and stepdad even agreed we should send it and basically said, "That's just how he is."
I think some of the reactions are based on assumptions that weren't part of the original situation, so hopefully this clears up some of the missing context. The venue/planner probably could have handled the cheesecake situation better, and that's fair criticism.

And just to be clear, I’m not the only one who thinks his behavior was inappropriate. My husband and mother-in-law both AGREE with me. My mother-in-law says send the invoice (her uncle) but my husband doesn’t want to cause (potential) family drama.

I'm wondering if anyone else with PCOS has experienced this because it's now happened after both of my pregnancies almost identically.
I'm 25 and was diagnosed with PCOS several years ago after having high testosterone, insulin resistance, acne, and excess facial/body hair. My cycles were fairly regular (usually around 32 days), so I've always felt like my PCOS didn't completely fit the "typical" picture.
Here's what's so strange to me. I absolutely LOVE being pregnant. I know that sounds backwards because so many people say they felt exhausted or miserable, but pregnancy is honestly when I feel like the healthiest version of myself. I have more energy, almost no headaches or migraines, I can be active, and I just genuinely feel good. Even late in pregnancy I was going on long walks and felt great.
I also barely gain weight while I'm pregnant. With my first pregnancy I went from about 169 lbs to 183 lbs by delivery, then dropped to about 159 lbs within two weeks postpartum. With my second pregnancy I started around 176 lbs, delivered around 185 lbs, and was down to about 166 lbs within 10 days. Then around 6–8 weeks postpartum, it's like someone flips a switch. I start gaining weight again, especially around my abdomen. My face gets noticeably puffier, my cheeks get rounder, my hands swell enough that my wedding ring no longer fits, and I start getting headaches again several days a week. I just feel "off," and it feels like my body changes almost overnight.
Some other background that may or may not be relevant: I had gestational diabetes with my first pregnancy, gestational hypertension with both pregnancies, and I'm breastfeeding (although I have low milk supply due to insufficient glandular tissue). I've also been evaluated for hypermobile EDS because it runs in my family, but I didn't quite meet the diagnostic criteria.
I'm already planning to discuss all of this with my OB and primary care doctor, so I'm not looking for a diagnosis from Reddit. I'm just really curious if anyone else with PCOS has had this same pattern.
Did you feel significantly better while pregnant than when you weren't pregnant? Did you lose your pregnancy weight quickly and then start gaining it back a couple of months postpartum? If so, did you ever figure out why? Was it your PCOS, your thyroid, insulin resistance, breastfeeding, or something else?
I'd really love to hear your experiences because I feel like I can't find anyone whose body seems to behave quite like mine.

Okay...I know this sounds ridiculous, but I need someone to either laugh with me or tell me I'm not the only one who's had this thought.
I have two little ones who are 14 months apart. They're almost 16 months and 2 months old now, so life is already pretty busy. Yesterday my toddler randomly did one of those little headstand/downward dog poses. My grandma was over, so I jokingly told my toddler, "Don't do that!" because I'd heard the old wives' tale that when toddlers do that, they're "looking for their next sibling."
My grandma laughed and said, "That would be a lot of babies."
I said, "Yeah...and with my luck it'd be twins."
Y'all...my toddler immediately BURST into the biggest belly laugh. Not just a little giggle. I'm talking a full-on, deep belly laugh like I had just said the funniest thing they'd ever heard.
Now here's the problem... I'm only about 2 months postpartum, I'm breastfeeding, and I still haven't gotten my period back. So now my completely sleep-deprived, postpartum brain is over here wondering if my child knows something I don't. Logically, I know toddlers can't predict pregnancy. I know old wives' tales are just that...old wives' tales.
But then I remembered how many stories I've heard from moms saying things like, "My toddler kept pointing at my belly before I knew I was pregnant," or "Mine kept saying 'baby' and then I found out I was expecting."
So naturally my brain has decided to spiral.
Please tell me...has your toddler ever done something that made you irrationally wonder if you were pregnant again? Did they "predict" anything that ended up being true, or is my postpartum brain just working overtime?
Either way, my toddler has successfully convinced me that I need to side-eye every weird thing they do from now on.