u/NiceBodybuilder6575

I’m 26F with no kids. I’ve always wanted to have children one day, but I’m starting to question if I’m okay with the situation I’m in.
My boyfriend is 35. He has 4 kids with 2 different women. Three of those kids are with his most recent ex, who he was with for about 10 years. They only recently ended that relationship before we got together.
He’s told me he wants a child with me someday, but honestly it goes in one ear and out the other because of the circumstances. It feels easy to say, but I’m thinking about what that would actually look like.
He’s already mentioned having a new girlfriend to some of his family, and apparently some of them have responded with things like, “Don’t have any more kids.” Hearing that kind of made me stop and think.
If we had a child together, I’d be the third mother of his children. I’d also be entering a situation where there are already four kids and two co-parenting relationships that will always be part of our lives.
I don’t judge anyone for having children with multiple people. I’m just wondering if I’m being naive by thinking I could handle that long-term.
For anyone who’s been in a similar situation—either as the person with kids already or the new partner—what was your experience? Did you ever regret it? Were there challenges you didn’t anticipate? Would you do it again?
I’m trying to separate my feelings for him from the reality of what I’d be signing up for if we eventually had a family.

Edit: I appreciate everyone who’s taken the time to give genuine advice, even if it’s tough to hear. I’m open to honest opinions and constructive criticism—that’s why I posted. But if your comment is only meant to be rude or make fun of me for asking, I’d rather you just keep scrolling. I’m looking for perspective, not insults.

I have a friend that I’ve already started keeping at a distance because over the years she’s made comments that just don’t sit right with me. I’m trying to figure out if I’m being too sensitive or if this friendship has just run its course.
Some examples:
• One time she randomly said, “I forgot you had morals” when we were talking about dating. I honestly can’t even remember what prompted it, but that comment has always stuck with me because… what does that even mean?
• She has messaged guys I know on social media asking, “How do you know (my name)?” I assume it was because she was interested in them, but why approach them that way instead of just talking to them? It felt weird.
• A few years ago we were taking Christmas pictures. I asked the photographer if they also did passport photos. My friend immediately chimed in with, “Yeah, because I’ve been to five countries and you’ve been to zero.” It felt like such an unnecessary jab. I wasn’t even comparing myself to her.

What confuses me is that she has her own struggles (just like everyone else), but I’ve never felt the need to throw those things back at her or make little comments to make myself feel better. If a friend is doing well or asks a simple question, I don’t see why I’d use it as an opportunity to one-up them.
None of these incidents alone are friendship-ending, but together they’ve made me question whether she actually likes me or just likes having someone around to subtly put down.
Am I reading too much into this, or do these sound like passive-aggressive digs? At what point do you stop keeping someone at arm’s length and just end the friendship altogether?