Limerence
I will be the first to admit that I struggle with limerence and had actually been glad when TikTok named it. I recently just got over a subject that I had been obsessed with and he had been a narcissistic situationship. I was glad when I found someone else to finally make me see there are options out there without emotional abuse. The problem is, I feel the addiction once again. I am so ready to start working on myself, though my brain finds comfort in going back to the hottest limerent subject. I took a break from dating apps for nearly three months and grew curious and downloaded apps today— only to find myself swiping off on everyone. I am beginning to notice a pattern where I hyperfocus on qualities of my current obsessions. I need perfection or can’t accept them. Two questions for the community. One, how did you guys successfully move past limerence? I can’t take obsessing again and again and waiting around for breadcrumbs. I’m dying on the inside. Two, what should I do about these dating apps? They are literally draining me again and it has been two hours. I don’t know how I’m ever going to find someone. I just was really hoping a limerent subject would return my spark. But it always seems like a fail and then I can’t move on for three years. And even if I try, it is like I have to finish my prison sentence before I can see clearly again. Please help!