u/No-Low-5186

Salam alaikum,

I hope you're all doing well.

For context, I've always been a family diplomat from a very young age. It shouldn't have been this way, but that role fell on me subhanallah.

Anyhow, my parents recently got into another dispute, and both of them presented their cases to me. I am not going to take anyone's side - I just stayed silent. What was interesting is how compelling both my parents made their cases.

Just this morning, I was taking my mum to the train station. She presented her case and made my dad out to be the worst type of human being to have walked the earth. But I've seen this pattern - they'll reconcile and lovingly go back to each other.

My point is to be careful of these posts here. I guarantee 99% of the time a spouse is posting here when they're running high on emotions and they WILL manipulate the facts.

Everyone does it. It is only human. Even the sahaba used to do it. But the reality is - it takes two hands to clap. I acknowledge there is legitimate abuse that occurs, and those cases should not be ignored. But I plead to all of you - if you are posting, be careful. If you are commenting, be careful.

Wallahi I can come on here, make a fake sob story and I can guarantee you 99% of the time the comments here will tell me to divorce my spouse.

Little do they know that I'll reconcile and go back. Fear Allah and be careful. Do not give advice and do not seek advice online. You do not have the full picture nor are you necessarily capable of giving the full picture.

May Allah bless us, guide us and keep us firm on this deen.

I'm curious. I myself left accounting just recently - only worked for 2 years then transitioned to teaching. Someone mentioned it in my last post there's a shortage in the market. Why is that? Is it because pay is terrible and conditions are terrible as well? For me, I left for both pay and conditions. I felt accounting is too cutthroat - at least where I worked anyway.

Hey guys,

I made the decision to move on from accounting to another career. I was doing my CPA but decided to not go ahead.

Ever since then, they've been emailing me, calling me and even messaging me on Whatsapp. Are they desperate? Are enrolment numbers down? I'm genuinely curious as to what's going on

Hi guys,

I'm a pre-service teacher. I did my first placement a few weeks ago, and I really, really enjoyed it. I was dealing with Year 11 and 12 classes. SES was a lower to middle class school. I taught 10 classes and observed 20 as per my university's requirements. I am aware I likely had a light load.

I'll start with things I really liked. 1) No one is micromanaging you. In corporate, it felt like Big Brother was watching. In teaching, you could go for a 2-hour lunch break and literally no one cares as long as you don't have classes during that time, and you're on top of your lesson plans. 2) It really is rewarding watching students' eyes light up when they understand something. 3) Staff are genuinely supportive and kind. It was very refreshing (as an ex accountant) as in my experience, people were standoffish and surface level nice.

The cons are as follows. 1) When your schedule is packed, IT IS PACKED. That 30 min lunch break is not an actual lunch break. You go to the toilet, grab a bite, freshen up etc. You're frantically scrambling. 2) The kids at my placement school were super disengaged. Luckily, I planned activities to get their brain juices flowing but it did slow us down unfortunately (not too much thankfully). 3) Teachers talk SO FUCKING MUCH in the staff room(s). You lend a listening ear and next thing you know, you're sitting there for 2 hours listening to someone chew your ears off.

Honestly, the cons were very small things. My school was pretty good in terms of behaviour management - not many unruly kids. Overall, I had a very positive experience. But my question is - did I genuinely have it good, and expect more shocking experiences in the future?

Hey guys,

I began Judo about a month ago. For context, I've been doing BJJ for about 11 months now. I'm a white belt in Judo, but a 2-stripe white belt in BJJ.

I've noticed during newaza, I'll get upper belts (like green and brown) in bad positions and even get a submission on them, but they don't tap. I don't want to be an asshole so I let go after 5 seconds. But I'm noticing it's a consistent pattern. Maybe my submissions aren't as good as I thought? But it legitimately makes no sense.

For instance, I had a brown belt in a triangle choke today during newaza (and I was told it wasn't legal for white and yellow belts, but it was ok for me to continue). Managed to lock up and get it nice and tight, but the guy wouldn't tap. I let go. He was definitely red from it.

My question is - should I continue my current practice of letting go after 5 seconds, or should I not give it up till they tap or pass out? I really, really hate being an asshole but it just perplexes me as to why they're not tapping.

I'm a pre-service teacher doing my first placement so maybe it's my shock.

But holy shit. Kids do not want to answer questions. You have to scaffold down to crumbs for them to bootstart their brains. It's insane. This is VCE that I'm talking about. Surely it's not that hard to bloody think. Think of examples and work backwards.

And I'll also mention this - some pre-service teachers alarm me deeply. They're treating their bachelors/masters as a joke - one pre-service teacher told me "just read off the slides and get them to do independent work."

Legitimately - where did we go wrong as a society? And then we're scratching our heads as to why kids in China and elsewhere are doing better than ours. Surely I'm not going insane? Or am I just being too self-righteous?