u/No-Nothing-487

one thing I noticed is that when I sleep badly, I often have a very heavy "hangover" feeling, even though I did not drink alcohol. And I'm mostly in a terrible mood because of this, and I KNOW that this day will be full of procrastination and unproductivity.

Today was such a day. Yesterday I had an awesome day, was extremely focused, got a lot of shit done, and I was proud of myself. I was looking forward to the next day to keep my streak (I'm working on a project), but like I said, when I woke up this morning I was already in a terrible mood and started procrastinating... and I still am.

I really hope that tomorrow is better, but I keep noticing this pattern. Does anyone else also get a "hangover feeling" from bad sleep? I mean slight stomach ache, more anxiety, a bit dizzy, feeling very "heavy", etc.

But it's also the other way around: if I slept well and had a nice dream or something, I already know I will be very productive and i am in a good mood.

anyone feels similar?

I’m a 33-year-old man. I’ve never had a girlfriend or had sex, and I don’t think it will ever happen because I am too insecure. My father is getting older, and I really wish I could give him grandkids. I feel like I owe this to him because he has done so much for me in my life.

The problem is that I’m quite shy and have a fear of being rejected. This text isn’t about "drowning in self-pity"; I’m asking for techniques to overcome this. I struggle with approaching women because of this fear, and I’m also not a huge fan of chatting on dating apps.

I sometimes get the feeling that a woman might be interested in me (at my workplace or in social situations), and I always hope she makes the first move, which unfortunately rarely happens. Ironically, if a woman flirts with me, I immediately self-sabotage and think, "She’s just being nice." This happens even in clubs or similar settings.

I really need my alone time, and I already feel overwhelmed during the "getting to know you" phase by being in constant contact with someone. It’s weird, I know, but that’s how I am. While I appreciate time spent together, the constant flow of information and interaction is a lot for me to handle. On the few occasions in my life where I dated or chatted intensely with someone, it became too much for me. One time, I even ghosted a nice lady, which I’m not proud of.

My question is: has any man here had a similar story, got over it, and found someone? Do you have any tips for me? I am exercising and I'm in therapy. I am gaining confidence, but I’m not there yet. My main struggles are insecurity about my looks and, even worse, the fear of being overwhelmed by a relationship.

Hi everyone. Does anyone else hate it when people are overly dependent? Personally, I really don't like asking people for help; I don't want to be an inconvenience, and normally I don't do it unless I really need to. I’m proud of being self-sufficient in that regard, and I just can't handle people who are the complete opposite.

I live outside of my home country, and there’s a friend of a friend visiting the town I’m in. It turns out I don’t like him at all. He is extremely dependent—he’s supposedly traveling solo through this country, but God knows how, because he’s helpless. I’ve told him multiple times that I don’t have a lot of free time, yet he keeps asking me for favors regarding the most basic things.

I keep telling him "no" or indirectly showing him where he can find the information himself. I’m hinting very strongly that he can handle it on his own, yet he doesn't. To make matters worse, he’s racist as fuck. Since he's a friend of a friend, I didn't really know this about him beforehand.

He also constantly ignores things we arranged. For example, we agreed to meet late in the evening, yet now he’s asking to come over early to use my internet. Like many people with ADHD, I sometimes have trouble saying no, and he’s driving me nuts. He’s only been here for two days and we’ve already had a big fight because he uses a very disrespectful tone—he isn’t even thankful.

I can give more examples if you want, but my question is: do you also hate that characteristic in someone? If you truly need help, it’s fine to ask, but if you have the tools to do it yourself and you still constantly demand help for basic tasks, it’s pathetic if you ask me. Anyone got similar struggles with peole like this?