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23F need help! Ex threatening me

I really need advice because I feel completely stuck and overwhelmed.
I’m from India F(23)
I was in a 4-year relationship that became emotionally abusive. My ex repeatedly used extremely abusive language towards me and even my parents. Every time it happened, he would either apologize briefly or involve his mother, who would call me and ask me to give him another chance. The pattern kept repeating for years, and nothing actually changed.
Around the end of last year, I realized I couldn’t continue anymore. I told him clearly that I wanted to end the relationship because I could no longer forget or accept the verbal abuse. I didn’t ghost him or disappear. I tried to explain my reasons calmly over several months. By then, my romantic feelings had already been gone for a long time.
Instead of accepting the breakup, he started blaming me for everything. He says I ruined his life and his studies, even though I never intended to hurt him. He keeps contacting me from different numbers after I block him, sometimes using his mother’s phone. During these calls, he apologizes for a moment and then starts abusing me again. He has also threatened to come to my house and involve my family.
He taunts me for my past relationships because I was fool enough to tell him everything but it never had to anything with him I never cheated him
I always supported him emotionally because he had anxiety issues for to my surprise he never acknowledged that yes you supported me he was like oh you did nothing
He wants to meet “one last time,” but I don’t want to meet him because every interaction ends with more abuse and threats. I don’t feel safe, and I don’t want to give him false hope.
The hardest part is that I don’t have a supportive family I can comfortably tell, and I have almost no friends. I feel embarrassed talking about this, even though I know I probably shouldn’t.
I’m exhausted. I feel trapped, guilty, and constantly anxious because of the threats. Right now, I’m struggling a lot emotionally and I honestly don’t know what to do. TL;DR

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u/No-Obligation7655 — 3 hours ago
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23F need help! Ex threatening me

I really need advice because I feel completely stuck and overwhelmed.
I’m from India F(23)
I was in a 4-year relationship that became emotionally abusive. My ex repeatedly used extremely abusive language towards me and even my parents. Every time it happened, he would either apologize briefly or involve his mother, who would call me and ask me to give him another chance. The pattern kept repeating for years, and nothing actually changed.
Around the end of last year, I realized I couldn’t continue anymore. I told him clearly that I wanted to end the relationship because I could no longer forget or accept the verbal abuse. I didn’t ghost him or disappear. I tried to explain my reasons calmly over several months. By then, my romantic feelings had already been gone for a long time.
Instead of accepting the breakup, he started blaming me for everything. He says I ruined his life and his studies, even though I never intended to hurt him. He keeps contacting me from different numbers after I block him, sometimes using his mother’s phone. During these calls, he apologizes for a moment and then starts abusing me again. He has also threatened to come to my house and involve my family.
He taunts me for my past relationships because I was fool enough to tell him everything but it never had to anything with him I never cheated him
I always supported him emotionally because he had anxiety issues for to my surprise he never acknowledged that yes you supported me he was like oh you did nothing
He wants to meet “one last time,” but I don’t want to meet him because every interaction ends with more abuse and threats. I don’t feel safe, and I don’t want to give him false hope.
The hardest part is that I don’t have a supportive family I can comfortably tell, and I have almost no friends. I feel embarrassed talking about this, even though I know I probably shouldn’t.
I’m exhausted. I feel trapped, guilty, and constantly anxious because of the threats. Right now, I’m struggling a lot emotionally and I honestly don’t know what to do. TL;DR

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u/No-Obligation7655 — 18 hours ago