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This might make me sound shallow and I don’t care anymore. I am 30F and I never really had a type and I never solely dated based in looks. But as I got older I started taking better care of myself and well I am hot and I want someone in my league looks wise. Of course I want them to share my important traits like loyalty, trust, mutual respect, empathy, ambition, self sufficient etc.

I also started reverting back to more traditional men. I love a gentleman and I do want to find my life partner and do everything with. But I am no longer settling for men who are not in my league looks wise. I worked so hard on myself and I am not finished. Why should I accept less? I did that and I regretted it. I never cared about what type of job or career a man had as long as he can take care of me. Frankly I prefer men in blue collar jobs. But anyway that is my rant.

As a woman I can tell you after dating many over the years, the best ones who treated me right were from overseas. If they had wanted a life in the states it would have worked out. Men here don’t have patience and full of lust and never satisfied.

I got treated like an absolute queen from men overseas.

I am from nyc metro area.. men here are more insufferable.

I am currently in the process of AOS. I had my interview this week and the officer asked why i let my work permit lapse and i explained i applied in January for daca and a joint i-765 with my i-485 and neither were processed. The officer said “seriously? Work permits are the fastest and easiest to approve”. 🙃 that agency is such a sh*t show!

I had my interview on Monday and it says case is still being actively reviewed. I know its only been 3 days but I want to know how long it took everyone to get approved after.

Please only comment if you had personal experience after an interview, not unsolicited generic theories

Sharing my experience since Reddit helped me a lot leading up to this. I am daca recipient but my renewal never came so my work permit lapsed and my work permit with my AOS is also still processing.

📅 Timeline

* Dec 19, 2025 – Filed I-130 & I-485 (concurrent)

* Jan 9, 2026 – RFE issued (I-485)

* Jan 10, 2026 – Biometrics scheduled

* Jan 24, 2026 – RFE response received

* Jan 29, 2026 – Case actively reviewing

* Mar 30, 2026 – Interview scheduled

* May 4, 2026 – Interview day → case now “actively reviewing”

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Interview (Newark FO)

Interview was about 20 minutes total.

Officer was… a bit unfiltered. Before even pulling up our file, she started asking about us being a same-sex Muslim couple, saying she’s “never seen this before,” asking if it’s frowned upon in Islam, how it works, if we’ve “always been this way,” etc. It was definitely uncomfortable and felt more like personal curiosity than anything relevant.

Once the actual interview started, it was very standard:

Relationship / timeline

* When/how we met

* When it became romantic

* When we started dating

* Proposal + marriage

* Why we got married

Living situation

* When my spouse moved in

* Who we live with

* Who pays bills

Family

* Parents’ names

* Siblings’ names

* Where family lives

* Reactions to relationship

* She seemed shocked that my spouse’s family doesn’t know (we explained family dynamics, not close, lives independently, etc.)

Wedding / trips

* Why Vegas

* Who attended

* Time/details of ceremony

* Honeymoon

* Travel together

Immigration

* When I entered the U.S.

* DACA

* Visa denials (asked twice)

Kids

* Asked if we want kids (we said not now, maybe in future)

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Financials

* Asked if we have joint accounts (we do)

* I gave updated:

* joint bank statements

* joint credit cards

* employer letters + pay stubs

* joint sponsor docs

* car insurance showing shared address

She didn’t really dig into the joint sponsor beyond asking who they are to us.

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End of Interview

* Went through all I-485 yes/no questions (all “no”)

* Said to await decision while she reviews

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Overall takeaway

* Content of interview = very standard

* Delivery = a bit uncomfortable/unfiltered

But:

* We answered everything immediately and consistently

* No hesitation, no contradictions

* She didn’t challenge anything

Now just waiting for a decision. Will come back with an update.

If anyone has recent Newark timelines post-interview, curious how long it took after “actively reviewing” to get approved.

I just wanted to share my journey as it may be coming to an end.

I had renewed my DACA in January it expired in April. This is the first time since 2012. I had my status lapse.

I am also in the process of doing AOS, which I have not received a work permit for that either. My expedite request for both were denied at this point. I have lost money in all these fees, but I am lucky enough that I am doing AOS.

It is going to be such a relief, not having to deal with this anymore.

I have been reaching out to congressional offices and House of Representatives since February multiple times and nobody has helped.

This is the new reality of USCIS with more uncertainty, backlogs, pauses, and scrutiny.

If you have not applied to renew, you, should do it now even if it doesn’t expire until next year, some immigration lawyers are now submitting for their clients eight months to 12 months in advance.

Good luck everyone