AITA for not letting my brother use my apartment for his private time anymore?
I live alone in a small one bedroom (I’m 24f). My brother Mike (27M) lives with our parents to save money. We're close and I usually don't mind helping him out.
A few months ago he asked if he could use my place to hang out with his girlfriend Carl sometimes. He said our parents are always around and they never get privacy. I agreed and told him to just give me a heads up.
At first it was fine. He'd text, I'd leave for a few hours, they'd watch movies or whatever But it started getting weird. Carl isn't even the only person he's bringing over.
Last month I came home early because I felt sick. Found them in my bed. Not watching movies. I was mortified. I told him that was crossing a line. He apologized and said it wouldn't happen again.
Then two weeks ago I got home and noticed my expensive face cream was almost empty. It's $53 a bottle. I asked him about it and he said Carl used some because she forgot hers so I just let it slide.
Last weekend I came back and found food wrappers everywhere, my good wine glasses in the sink, and a weird stain on my couch cushion. The place smelled like candles they'd burned without opening a window.
I texted him and said I'm done. No more using my place. He began to call back to back but I didn’t want to hear him. I was also kinda busy cleaning up. After all I won’t take any excuse whatsoever from him for not cleaning up. then he said things like me not knowing bro code, being bossy because I have it easier. He was complaining bitterly about not being able to own a place himself yet and tbh he wasn’t being an ass about this as expected. Just being nice and loving after the crash out. It kinda made me question my decision at some point but I had enough already.
My surprise is that he told my mom and My mom apparently told him to let me keep being selfish and just ask for privacy in their house whenever he wants. I told my mom I felt like I was being used at some point and I'm not a hotel. I didn't sign up for cleaning up after them or sharing my skincare and if that’s being selfish I’ll just keep it that way. She talked about my brother getting married to Carl one day and she’ll always remember me for being selfish but should i care?
AITA here?