u/No-Reading-5877

I just graduated high school and didn’t make a single friend all 4 years. Ive always masked at school and the people who want to be friends with the masked me are people who I actually wouldn’t want to be friends with and who wouldn’t want to be friends with the unmasked me. In college I want to break this pattern and search for friends who Id actually relate to both personality wise and interest wise. What good ways to find friends in college besides clubs (I already plan on joining multiple)? Also, what are good ways to find other neurodivergent friends?

I’m starting the anxiety-inducing process of getting a formal diagnosis. However now I’m feeling a bit reluctant. The idea of getting a diagnosis just feels so major. It’s like without having a diagnosis, I don’t have anything officially different about me, but the idea of getting a diagnosis makes things feel less “ignorable”. I feel like I’m able to blend in the way I am, but if I get a diagnosis I won’t ever feel the same amount of assimilation. Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way.