Dating the perfect man, feel no spark, almost want to run away...help
Hi all, I need some advice.
My last relationship ended a year ago, and since then, especially the last few months, I've decided to just spend some time by myself enjoying my freedom. It's been great. I was genuinely enjoying my life so much, and not seeking love in any way. Was just really happy single. Randomly, I met a guy. He was the one who initiated everything, as I said, I was very happy alone. But he was genuinely so, so sweet about it, I felt a little obliged to accept. He is also a friend of friends, so there was an excitement and expectation component from the friends on the idea of pairing us up, which also pushed me to accept. But he was genuinely very nice about it, so I thought it might work, at least worth a date or two to see. Fast forward two weeks, and we've seen each other a total of five times. It's been great. He is a lovely guy, honestly the sweetest man I've ever met, and checks off perfectly the list of what I'd look for as a husband. The problem is, I don't feel anything. Nothing at all. He has been very forward and keeps discussing the future, going as far as discussing marriage "someday" and kids. I feel uncomfortable because I can't reciprocate. I feel like he texts me all the time, typical good mornings, good nights, did you eat, etc. He will double text or call if I don't reply in 2-3 hours. He won't overtly say he is upset, but will question where I was and why I didn't reply. At such an early stage of dating, I would hope to feel some kind of excitement or butterflies. Also not a fan of being controlled or questioned so early on. I feel a sense of neediness and control from him, which pushes me away. I've come to think maybe it's because it's a man and not a woman that I don't feel the butterflies, because he is everything I would have thought I wanted, but now that I have it and he says he is falling in love with me, I just want to run away. Should I continue and try to make it work? He is genuinely the sweetest, albeit with some red flags… or should I leave now while I still can, and if so, how do I do it? He is such a sensitive man, and his love bombing has created a sense of commitment where there isn't one (we are not a couple, just seeing each other). Do you girls feel sparks with men even as bi women? Do you enjoy sex with men? (FYI, my previous experiences have all been with women but I do still feel attracted to men, the sex I found to just be hurtful)
Please help