u/No-Resolution-3896

Hey ! So, the title may seem a bit strange, but this is my situation right now.

I'm 26, my boyfriend, Jason, is 27. We live together in an apartment with my two cats, Banjo and Koda.

Koda, my older cat, loves Jason. Absolutely loves him. Snuggles all over him, purrs when hes around, follows him everywhere.. but when it comes to the night, when my boyfriend will make love to me every now and again, Koda will go nuts. He meows and scratches at our door to get in - and god forbid, if we let him in, he will meow and hiss and bite us. He doesn't do that ANY other time. Literally ONLY when I'm trying to have sex with my man. We've tried so many different things to try to get Koda to stop freaking out and stop being angry about it, but he just will not calm down.

Someone please explain why this is happening and how can I make it stop?

My new cat, Banjo, has been distressed lately - not playing, sleeping a lot, feeling and looking upset.. i didnt know what caused it. The most recent event that (maybe?) could have potentially caused it was Friday, my boyfriend, Jason, came and visited. Banjo doesn't really love my boyfriend, but there never seemed to be anything concerning about his behavior. So, Friday night, Banjo pushed the door open while I was making love to my boyfriend.... and Banjo immediately ran off and hid. I dont think he's ever seen that before and I'm afraid I've traumatized him. What do I do ?? Is it my fault? How can I fix it?