i was a victim of cocsa, i forgave him, can we get back to normal?(tw)
i was 8 yo when i have the first memory of this happening to me, (i think it started when i was 7) my brother who is 2 years older, he tried explicitly touching me when i was asleep, i used to wake up but i was so afraid of confronting him, that i never did. i used to pretend to slowly wake up so that he goes away. we used to share bedrooms, tho different beds. this happened from when i was 8 to 12 in my memory. in my later years he played 'games' with me playing house where he's the husband and i'm the wife, or that he is the father and i'm the baby that needs her diapers to be changed. i once saw him jerking when i was 13 and he thought i was sleeping but i woke up early that day, i looked away but i was so scared that he'd do something to me. i told my older brother who saw me self harm scars and i told him this as part of the reason, he ended up telling my mom, they thought it was old news and we both were kids and its nothing major, all he got was an understanding scolding, and my mother asked me if i 'enjoyed' it and thats why i hid it from her. he also showed me porn site when i was 11 and he was 13 hoping that we'd do something similar, and when i refused he begged me to not tell mom. i stopped talking to him for 5 years, from 12 to 17. i feel like he is a changed man, i forgave him, and diffrentiated between the trauma and the person who did it. i asked him why he did it and he said curiousity got the better of him and he is sorry and he knows he shouldn't have done it. i'm trying to get back to normal with him but idk if i ll ever forget what he did, or will this always affect our dynamic. i just wanted my brother back.