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But my boyfriend used to have nothing, like really nothing. So the way my family saw him back then was like crap, they paid more attention to his brother who has a good job and money but is a bit stingy too. They are kind to me, my aunt and I are really close, even with his siblings. Back when my boyfriend had nothing, I always treated him and went with him on all his outings. It was just the two of us figuring out our problems together. His treatment back then was different, even his sister used to dislike him, and they would ask which sibling he liked the most, and his answer was that I wasn't one of his favorites. Sometimes, my boyfriend would get annoyed with all sorts of hurtful words, but it was just like joking on their part, at least he's not much taken care of or noticed since he's the middle child, so I know during that phase of his life, I was with him. Sometimes, he wouldn’t even get served food first; they would prioritize his other siblings who had jobs and were favorites. He's often set aside, but middle children know that.

Then came the day he took his oath to become a police officer, and everything changed. His family became really nice to him; they started treating him differently. The one who wasn't a favorite is now the one they take care of all the time. There was even a moment where they were pretending to care because they wanted to buy property, then his sibling borrowed money from him and asked him to buy unnecessary luxuries. Before, my aunt and I were very close, but now it feels like they’re putting on airs when I’m around; I can feel that their treatment of me has changed. And then my boyfriend is starting to set me aside, prioritizing his family over me which I understand, but it hurts because when I was there for him when he had nothing, it feels like I was replaced, like I’m just the least priority now. Maybe he’s making up for it, but I hope he makes up for me too, at least have some time just for us, not always with his family. Because of this, he’s surprised that I’m so cold or sometimes angry at him because I don’t say that to him.

Help me out here on what I should do or how to solve this...

I just want to ask for advice from you, maybe I’m just wrong or being jealous.

pero kase itong bf ko noon walang wala talaga as in. kaya ang tinggin sakanyan noon ay parang tae ang mas pinapansin ng family nya noon itong kuya nyang maganda ang trabaho at mapera pero medyo kuripot din , mabait sakin sila tita close na close nga kami pati mga kapatid nya , nung panahong walang wala pa bf ko ako nanlilibre ako nasama sa lahat ng lakad nya .ang mundo namin kaming dalawa lang kami na rin nag fifigure out ng problema naming dalawa, iba trato sakanya nung panahon nayan ni dikitan nga ng kapatid nya na babae ayaw na ayaw , tapos tinatanong pa yung kapatid nya kung sino pinaka paborito nya sa mga kapatid nya Ang sagot nya wala dun ang bf ko. Minsan naasar pa tong bf ko ng kung ano anong masasakit na salita pero pabiro kung baga sakanila least syang inaasikaso or napapansin kase middle child , kaya alam ko sa phase ng buhay nya na yun kasama ko sya. Minsan nga di pa sya tinitrihan ng ulam mas inuuna pa yung ibang kapatid nya yung mga may trabaho na at paborito . Sya lagi ang sineset aside basta alam ng mga middle child yan

Hanggang sa dumating yung araw na nakapag oath na sya sa pag pupulis nya , biglang nagbago lahat ang bait na ng pamilya nya sakanya iba na sila trumato sakanya kung yung dati di sya paborito ngayon todo asikaso na sila sakanya, may instance pa na parang pinag loloan sya kase may bibilhin ng property tapos umuutang pa sakanya kapatid nya at nagpapabili pa ng mga luho na di naman kailangan , dati close na close kami ni tita ngayon para g embyerna na sila sakin pag andun ako ramdam ko na parang nagbago na sila ng pakikitungo sakin , tapos itong bf ko parang seneset aside ako mas inuuna nya pa yung pamilya nya na yun which is naiitindihan ko kaya lang masakit kase nung panahon na andun ako nung walang wala sya parang pinalitan na ko parang least priority nalang ako . Bumabawi siguro sya pero sana bumawi din sya sakin , kahit manlang mag karoon kami ng oras na kaming dalawa di yung laging kasama yung pamilya nya , dahil jan nagugulat sya bat ang cold ko or minsan galit ako sakanya kase diko sinasabi sakanya yun

Tulungan nyo naman ako kung anong magandang gawin or pano ma solusyonan to..

Mag ask lang po ako ng advice sainyo baka mali lang ako or nagseselos ,

pero kase itong bf ko noon walang wala talaga as in. kaya ang tinggin sakanyan noon ay parang tae ang mas pinapansin ng family nya noon itong kuya nyang maganda ang trabaho at mapera pero medyo kuripot din , mabait sakin sila tita close na close nga kami pati mga kapatid nya , nung panahong walang wala pa bf ko ako nanlilibre ako nasama sa lahat ng lakad nya .ang mundo namin kaming dalawa lang kami na rin nag fifigure out ng problema naming dalawa, iba trato sakanya nung panahon nayan ni dikitan nga ng kapatid nya na babae ayaw na ayaw , tapos tinatanong pa yung kapatid nya kung sino pinaka paborito nya sa mga kapatid nya Ang sagot nya wala dun ang bf ko. Minsan naasar pa tong bf ko ng kung ano anong masasakit na salita pero pabiro kung baga sakanila least syang inaasikaso or napapansin kase middle child , kaya alam ko sa phase ng buhay nya na yun kasama ko sya. Minsan nga di pa sya tinitrihan ng ulam mas inuuna pa yung ibang kapatid nya yung mga may trabaho na at paborito . Sya lagi ang sineset aside basta alam ng mga middle child yan

Hanggang sa dumating yung araw na nakapag oath na sya sa pag pupulis nya , biglang nagbago lahat ang bait na ng pamilya nya sakanya iba na sila trumato sakanya kung yung dati di sya paborito ngayon todo asikaso na sila sakanya, may instance pa na parang pinag loloan sya kase may bibilhin ng property tapos umuutang pa sakanya kapatid nya at nagpapabili pa ng mga luho na di naman kailangan , dati close na close kami ni tita ngayon para g embyerna na sila sakin pag andun ako ramdam ko na parang nagbago na sila ng pakikitungo sakin , tapos itong bf ko parang seneset aside ako mas inuuna nya pa yung pamilya nya na yun which is naiitindihan ko kaya lang masakit kase nung panahon na andun ako nung walang wala sya parang pinalitan na ko parang least priority nalang ako . Bumabawi siguro sya pero sana bumawi din sya sakin , kahit manlang mag karoon kami ng oras na kaming dalawa di yung laging kasama yung pamilya nya , dahil jan nagugulat sya bat ang cold ko or minsan galit ako sakanya kase diko sinasabi sakanya yun

Tulungan nyo naman ako kung anong magandang gawin or pano ma solusyonan to..

Mag ask lang po ako ng advice sainyo baka mali lang ako or nagseselos ,